Here's the deal....I'm turning 16 on march 4th and my mom decided to throw me this huge party. she got 3 suites in a hotel room with a pool and jacuzzi and she said i can invite 30 of my friends...the girls...and boys. The thing is i'm a girl but most of my friends are guys and some of their parents are somewhat conservative. Soooo, my question is do I come right out on the invitations and say it's a co-ed sleepover and let my mom talk to their parents about how the boys will sleep in a separate room or do I somehow hide it so everyone will be able to come? Orrr...do I end the whole co-ed thing and party with my like, 2 girl friends? Thanks!
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Wow, you're mom sounds pretty kewl, lucky you. I think that the best plan would be to just put it's a co-ed sleepover on the invites, and if your friends parents have a problem and want to know specific details, to just give you or your mom a call. I doubt you'll have to much of a problem.
i hope you have a fun party!
------------------ "No self-respecting woman will let a naked man in socks do the squelchy with her'-Jeff Murdock (Coupling, BBCC)
I went to my first co-ed sleepover when I was 13, at a friends house while her parents were there. I went to many, all consiting of a group of my close friend, until I was out of high school. I always found them to be a lot of fun and a chance to have all those late-night-philosophical conversations. My mom, however, thought it was an orgy waiting to happen and we had several disagrements - she didn't understand that there really wasn't anything sexual going on.
My advice? Have your mom write a letter to the parents of the people you're going to invite. Have her explain exactly what will happen- what kind of adult supervision there will be, who will sleep where, if a 'lights out' will be enforced, that there will be no drug use of any kind, etc.
If the parents were kept in the dark and found out later, it will could mean harsh punishments for their kids as well as nasty phone calls to your mom.
So, let everyone know the deal and enforce the rules. If that means some of your friends can't go... then you might just be a few people short at the party. Respect your friends' parents wishes.
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