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CallMeBuffChick
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I was wondering what someone of you people talk on the phone about. I was asking this because when me and my honey are done talking about our day we never seem to find anything to talk about so end up sitting there listening to each breathe. It's kind of annoying but I do enjoy feeling the connection I know I'm weird but it's like they're with you just not physicly. But anyways I need some help on this so I'd really love it if you wonderful would reply.

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Me and my boyfriend also just sit around and listen to each other breathe! I wonder if that's a common thing among couples..or do they just get off the phone when they realize they have nothing to talk about? I dunno about everyone else, but I'd much rather listen to my bf breathe..if I have nothing else to do. lol.

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CallMeBuffChick
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Lol! It's very pleasing to listen to them breathe. Sometimes when it's like 3 o'clock in the morning one of us ends up falling asleep because we just don't wanna get off the phone.

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That happens to me also. Really, it all depends on the mood from the both of you...if your in a good mood, you tend to bring up situations and talk about things that happened to you way back when. Sometimes its best to watch the same channel on t.v. if you have nothing to say or comment on what your watching and you can have her switch it on that channel and talk about that and then you can also bring other ideas to talk about.
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i tend to ask really dumb questions.... like "what type of toothpaste to you use?" "boxers or briefs?" that usually gets him wondering why/how that popped up into your head and it can fill in the gaps with those awkward moments on the fone. Speaking of the phone....do most guys HATE talking on it unless they have something important to say ??(i don't mean boyfriends-- just a guy)because this guy told me that he'd much rather talk online because he's not a good speaker. I think he was just being a jerk, but who knows?

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Well ... the last time i talked to my bf on the phone was last nite, and i kind of asked him a really stupid question that totally blew him away ...

I was looking around the 'ask alice' website and there was a question about guys who pee sitting down. So i asked him which he preferred; to pee sitting or standing. He answered me and then was just silent for a few seconds and asked me where i came up w/ such a stupid question lol It usually ends up being something like that ... Just things i happen to be thinking about at the time!

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I have a problem with phones. I don't like to use them at all. If only I knew why .

So when (if) I talk to my partner on the phone, nothing really happens. They'll talk, I'll listen and offer an occasional "yea...". If I explain it to them first they don't seem to have a problem.

But it's different when I talk to my friends-we talk about anything you can think of. Sometimes I know wayyy more than I want to . But mot of our topics are about school-grades, teahcers, etc- or gossip, or clothes and ish.

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You're all welcome to bark at me for saying this if you like, okay?

But I can't help but wonder why you don't have anything to talk about with your partners or people you're dating, on the phone or otherwise. I find it depressing (being honest) to think that discussing television is all you might find in common or want to talk about.

I suppose I'm simply wondering how one has a partner to whom they cannot talk with at least as much interest and candor as a friend.

(Or maybe I'm wondering why anyone would call someone on the phone if they had nothing to talk about?)

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i hate my telephone. i unplug it several times a week. and a lot of the time, i simply don't answer it.

anyway, when i do use the phone, my guy and i like to talk about politics, travel, movies, music, school, etc.

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Why would you want to sit on the phone and listen to the other person breathe? That doesn't make any sense to me. I think it's really bad if you're on the phone with your partner and all you here is silence. Shouldn't a warning bell go off? "Oh crappers, we have nothing to talk about. So what's this relationship all about?" But hey, maybe that's just me.

My boyfriend and I talk to each other alot. We don't talk all the time because silence is uncomfortable or that we think what we have to say is earth-shattering but rather, we just like to talk and listen to each other. I find him quite interesting .

I'm not buying the whole "breathing as a form of connection" thing. Tantric sex (if I remember correctly), maybe. Phone convo, no no bad bad. I never went through the telephone-glued-to-my-ear phase but come on.... okay I think I'll leave this topic alone before I really rant .


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I have phone phobia, not when people call me, but I have a BIG problem calling people! It makes me nervous because I once called my friend during dinner and her dad threw a fit and told me I was rude! That's off topic.....

I would feel sooo uncomfortable if I had nothing to talk to my boyfriend about. My boyfriend and I talk about EVERYTHING! It probably helps that we were best friends before we became romantically involved, but we just talk about silly stuff, important things, issues, friends, music, life.....everything, just depends on our moods. I would much rather talk to him in person, but the phone is okay, he says I always make him laugh, he does the same for me. :::sigh::: I can't wait to talk to him tonight!

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My boyfriend and I talk about everything, we talk about work, sports, school, what were gonna do the next day.
Sometimes there is nothing to talk about, so we will sit on the phone and say, 'I love you more' and the other one will say 'NO I love you more' lol...Good times, Good times.

But most of the time we always have something to talk about, unless one of us is in a bad mood. (thats not that often thou).

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Honestly, we talk about all kinds of rubbish. From what we did at sch/work, movies, family to plain rubbish.

I like to snuggle on my bed and just tell him I love him. Can't even explain it. We just talk about everything and anything. I like to tell him the latest gossip, the way I do to my girlfriends.

But extracting any gossip from him takes years coz he always forgets anything interesting he heard and by the time he remembers, it is not interesting anymore.


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I agree with some of you with whats the point of calling if you're not going to talk. I don't think we're phone people because we just talk and talk in person. But when we just sit there on the phone things start to get alittle fun because we just ask each other silly question and ask each other what we're thinking. It can get pretty interesting at times.

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I have something of a phobia lately with answering the phone. I have to answer these utterly stupid tech support calls at work, and now even thinking of the phone makes me break out in a cold sweat.

Phone bring paaaaaaain!

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Being in a long distance relationship (we are on different continents), the phone is (next to eMailing) the main means of communication between my partner and me. We have plenty of things that we discuss on the phone...what we did during the day, what we've been thinking about, what's been happening...the usual stuff. We rarely get off the phone after less than an hour or so.
However, what is really annoying is that it *is* difficult to *only* or *mostly* have the phone. Sometimes we're tired and not in the mood to talk, sometimes I don't want to *ruin* his mood when I am feeling low, plus it's pretty annoying to be 10 time zones apart - we can never tell each other bedtime stories and then both doze off and you never know in what situation you catch the other one. It's quite sad, I reckon. Plus he finds it difficult to only connect via the phone...he prefers the face to face thing (but then - who doesn't?)
However, when we're together, we have lots to talk about.
Gals - how come you have nothing to talk about with your partner?? Strange...strange...

Anyway.....I must say I would prefer living without a phone being the third partner in my relationship. Really. Grrrrrr.

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your not the only one me and my b/f sits on the phone listening to eachother breathe too. Once in awhile he'll ask me am I ok or whats wrong. But it depends on the mood and time because if u guys did something that you can talk about or have memories about something ya'll can talk to days. But sometimes it does get annoyin when neither one of us is talking.

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I so rarely talk to my boyfrined on the phone... I think the last time was about 11 monts ago, two or so weeks after we first became Involved with each other.this is because we both have computers in our rooms and homa LANs with cable modems and thus are online 24/7 (given a great doeal of this we've marked ourselves away, but we're generaly online and *there* all evening, every evening.) the time when we talked on the phone, it was because his computer was broken. We tied up our phone lines for a good 6 hours talking fairly nonstop about all manner of things. nowadays, we talk about what happened during our days, all kinds of random things. or we fill up the instant message box with [cuddles] and [hugs] and [snuggles] and whatnot. not as good as the real thing, but hey. ;-) We used to talk about the Significant Things In Life, but after a year don't have great volumes of things like that to find out about each other- they're there, lots of things, but thery'e more likely to come up by accident through some random silly comment. with my girlfriend, on the other hand, we talk more by phone (she's not online much. and she has a cell phone wtih unlimited long distance). We talk mostly exactly like we did before we got Involved- about random philisophical things, about good books we've read, about how Star Trek: Voyager is one big orgy just waiting to happen :P She's pretty much the only person I talk to on the phone much- all my other friends either go to my school or online with great regularity. I hate calling people up on the phone, and I hate answering the phone. I've been like that as long as I can remember.
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Me and my girlfriend will always fall asleep listing to each other breath. I think of it as being right nest to her. We do have phone sex alot. That seems to keep us very occupied. HeHe Try it.

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Personally, I don't think my boyfriend and I ever really run out of things to say, atleast I don't recall. From day one we had a million things to say to each other. As for ideas about what you could talk about... hmm... just bring up "what if" situations. I think that works because you can get silly or serious or anything else you wanna be. The first night that my boyfriend and I spent hours on the phone (this was before when we had only known each other for 2 months and hadn't really admitted that we liked each other yet) we talked about stupid stuff like "what type of underwear do you prefer" and "where do you think would be the weirdest place to have sex" or "what do you want your future house to look like". Questions like that got us talking for atleast 20 mins. for each. Well, that's my input for you. Hope it helps!!!
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I don't really like talking on the phone. When my boyfriend (in past years) would call I would never have anything to say, since we would talk about everything we needed to talk about in school. So basically we would just sit there for awhile and go "so...." and "hmmmm." Or else my quick thinking brain would come up with stupid questions to ask to keep him occupied.

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phsygnosis:Yes phone sex is lots of fun. Gives me goosebumps just thinking about it and Lucky your phone convos sound to much like ours. "Um...so...uh...hello...what's up?So..." yep thats us. How boring. But in person we just can't shut up!

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