Hmm, first, one thing... even if other people think it (whatever 'it' may be) is weird... either way... believe me, there are some extraordinarily WEIRD things out there that people find really great and sexy and the vast majority of the world would just go _ick!!_ (or 'huh?!') Doesn't mean it's wrong. And some very simple things most people like, a few will sit there and shake their heads and wonder what is wrong with everyone. Long as everyone is having fun with whatever you are doing, it's all good!
That said- I am a little shy when it comes to it, but I love seeing my guy's face, it's... I don't know. Really neat to be able to make him fly for a little while, no matter what happens. I am still perfecting, but it's still all good.
And I really can't say I find much of anything straight 'nasty' in a general sense. As I said above- some of the weirdest things, some people like, and that's great! IMO, the only kind of sex-related thing I would find flat out 'nasty' is the kind someone involved doesn't want...
quote:Originally posted by Gumdrop Girl: nothing wrong with it. i enjoy it (giving and receiving). as long as i care about my partner, i'm all for it. however, it's my personal rule that i don't give till i get. but that's just me.
Well, Gumdrop, that's all well and good - but how would you feel if a guy you were dating told you that was his rule? "I don't give till I get." - I can be pretty sure you'd be pissed.
And if everyone has this rule, how would anyone ever get or trust anyone?
I agree with all of you guys in here, just like gumdrop girl, i didnt give, until i recieved, and one thing that i love about my man, HE DOESNT ASK FOR IT!! so it makes it something that I WANNA DO, just to satisfy him.
I also agree with you guys when you say that there is nothing wrong if you do it with someone that you love!! Personally, and this is just me, i think that those girls that go around doing this to guys that they dont even know, are NASTY..but thats just me!! The same thing goes for guys that do that. I dont see the point! :?
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But, in a completely nonogamous relationship where we're both very VERY sure we're STD-free, pregnancy is the primary concern.
Condoms with oral sex are a good idea - they protect against infections. But she prefers not to use them, for reasons of her own. Given that pregnancy is a non-issue with oral sex, and that disease is also not a driving concern, I felt that was reasonable.
I left the decision up to her - it was a question of preference, rather than safety.
But yes, I would definitely advise using a condom with any partner you are not completely and utterly certain of. And I don't mean just accepting a bland assurance that he's disease-free. ;p
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