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BigFish
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A while ago I asked you about a pregnancy scare that I had where I was at a summer ball party and was concerned that my fluids would seep through my clothes to her's and causing a pregnancy. It was very difficult to convince myself to accept the answer until eventually I did. I felt good for a couple of days until I had another pregnancy scare regarding the same situation. Now the problem is I do not remember if my underwear was a pair of briefs or boxer. Why does it matter ? because if it was a brief which is what I think was the case, did not have any opening in the front side (towards the penis) so that would make my situation safe. However I am worried if it was a pair of boxers where these is an opening that my penis with I think dry precum or possible precum might sneak out through the open zipper of my pants and come in contact with her vulva. what is the risk in that situation and how can I move on ?
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Redskies
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You already know from previous conversations with us that if you were not being sexual with someone, pregnancy is not going to happen.

You know, too, that anxiety is the issue here. Have you started receiving the extra help for anxiety that you mentioned to us? If you have, what has that person or service suggested to you about this?

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BigFish
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But through reading your it says that whenever there is genital to genital contact there is a risk...so I am worried about that. also I just finished my clearance stage ..so now I will book an appointment for the real treatment for my fears.
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Sam W
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The thing is, there has to be direct genital to genital contact (as in no barriers), and that is something you would have noticed had is occurred. Our answer about the risk of this situation has not changed.

Once you book that appointment, I would make your anxiety around this issue one of the first things you bring up, so that the person you're talking to can help you come up with some tips for managing it.

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BigFish
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I understand... and I also understand that you can't tell what happened or help with anxiety issues. Also when I first mentioned my scare I was just concerned with fluids transferring from surfaces and not direct contact ...so obviously no direct contact happened otherwise I would have known. The reason I asked is that I thought that I might get a different advice than the one I just said...or something that might comfort me. again I know its not your area, but I thought even if there was contact (maybe for a slight contact there isn't a risk or something like that.
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Heather
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The thing is, there-there's aren't going to help you manage this anxiety. Have you made that appointment yet?

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