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ladybug18
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Hello there,

I wanted to ask a question - I really did not want it to sound like a question where it has been answered many times before "Could i be pregnant?" However, I'm in a country where I cannot talk to my parents about it nor I cannot speak to the doctors here about pregnancy at a young age, please help me!

Around 2-3 weeks ago my partner and I decided to have unprotected sex(this was the first time we ever had unprotected sex)
As we had unprotected sex - he pulled out since he said he was about to cum - however, I am concerned about pre-cum. We used lube a lot in this case - so when I went to the bathroom and wiped my vagina I saw that I was very wet I'm not really sure what that was? I keep thinking back to the time where I wiped in the bathroom and saw like a very transparent gooey liquid and kept wondering if it was from lube that we used or just my vaginal discharge because I was very aroused. However, there was no sign of cum when I urinated or on my underwear or anything like that. I've asked my partner and he said he was positive that he did not cum inside me - since we only did it for a few minutes but pulled out. So what could it be?

After that, we've been using the condom again - he never does cum inside the condom so I'm not really worried about that part but now I'm 3 days late into my period and I'm just so stressed.

Just yesterday, I noticed white liquid vaginal discharge which is ovulation. I've been experiencing bloating a lot more, acne, mood swings and mild cramping however no sign of period and my period is always early, ALWAYS. So, I'm just so stressed! (and I do know that is also a reason for a late period) Also my routine has changed.

My question is - could I be at risk or not so?

Thank you so much.

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ladybug18
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Actually, I added incorrectly - I'm 5 days late*
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Molias
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Any time you engage in unprotected intercourse, even without ejaculation, then there is a risk of pregnancy. If you're able to access a pregnancy test, one would be accurate by now, so that's an option.

If you say your period's always early, it doesn't sound like your cycle's that regular - how are you keeping track of it? Even if you do tend to get your period around the same time, it's not unusual to have them show up earlier or later from time to time, so that may be what you're seeing here. It does sound like you're describing common premenstrual symptoms, so it may be on its way!

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ladybug18
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Ok, great! I'll be going with my partner to get one today.

I usually jot down the dates on the calendar for when I do get my period - and I have a period tracker on my phone! Last month, my period arrived on June 11nth - few days earlier than expected. I will definitely try to get a pregnancy test today!

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Heather
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I would also add that if and when you are in a situation where you are, or just feel, totally unable to access any healthcare or help when it comes to sex, where you feel you cannot even talk to anyone about it?

It really is likely a better choice to opt out of sex, rather than putting yourself in precarious situations. Especially if part of that means being or feeling unable to get and use things like condoms or other reliable safer sex and contraception. Sex can be awesome, for sure, but it is rarely so awesome it is worth taking giant risks with.

I know you have accessed condoms and Plan B in the past, though. Any sense of why, knowing your own situation and what you do and do not want to risk, you did something you know is way more risky than you want?

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ladybug18
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I got my period (yay!)

I can definitely speak to my friends about it and they do of course help me. It's just difficult sometimes being in a country where none of that is easy to access - I feel like I did that because I trust my partner - however, I'm the type of person who freaks out about anything or maybe I just really wanted to have sex at the time... [Frown]

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