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seashorex100
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My boyfriend and I did not ever have sex, but the other day he put his penis in between my butt for a few minutes. He did not ejaculate and he said there was no pre-ejaculation because he had done it before. That day I experienced sore boobs and I have been since. I'm not supposed to get my period for another 5 days and I usually don't get sore boobs until the day before my period. What are the chances of me being pregnant? There was no direct contact of the genital region and no ejaculation. Why do my boobs hurt so early before my period I never experienced that before? What do I do if I miss my period? Can I miss it from being so nervous?

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If there was no direct genital to genital contact, and your partner did not ejaculate, there was no pregnancy risk. However, you'll want to keep in mind that unprotected anal sex CAN pose a pregnancy risk when your partner does ejaculate, so next time you'll want to put on a condom. That also helps prevent STI transmission.

The fact that your breasts feel sore now does not mean that you are pregnant. Even if you'd become pregnant, it would be waaaay to soon for your body to experience any symptoms from that.

Our bodies are not machines, so we're not always going to experience PMS in exactly the same way, or have our periods start exactly when we expect them to. So, running a little early this month is not really unusual, and doesn't have to mean anything.

Since your period is not due for another 5 days, I'd not worry about it being late just yet. Just try to relax, alright? If and when it's late, we can take it from there.

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seashorex100
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Okay thank you so much!!! I was just worried because I've never experienced sore boobs for 10 days before.

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So you don't believe I even had a pregnancy scare? I'm so nervous that I'm gonna miss my period [Frown]

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Well, we can't know exactly what kind of contact you did or didn't have, because we weren't there. But we can tell you what things do and don't have pregnancy risks.

Waiting and being nervous about something is certainly very uncomfortable. Self-Care a La Carte has some suggestions that might help you out.

For the future, having this kind of contact is obviously not something you're comfortable with, as you're so worried now. Would you like to talk about either scaling it back to what you are comfortable with, or about using condoms and/or other contraception, or about how to talk with your boyfriend about those options?

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seashorex100
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Yes, I think part of the reason I'm so worried is because I wasn't comfortable with doing it. He just moved his penis up and down my butt there was no contact with my genital region and he did not ejaculate.

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So, sounds like what will probably help you a lot is to have a conversation with him about that and about what you both need to be doing when it comes to seeking consent from each other before doing things.

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Thank you guys for the advice. This is a great website. Even though I didn't have a risk I still feel really nervous about it. I know it can't make sense since he didn't ejaculate and there was no direct contact but for some reason I still have the anxiety that there's some kind of chance I'm pregnant. Is this a normal fear?

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Well, if you do not know or understand how human reproduction works, it would make sense to be scared.

But we also notice a lot of people scared around pregnancy when there were not real risks often feel that way because something bigger is making them nervous or scared. Like. For instance, when people are not doing consent, so at least one person feels afraid of not having the kind of control over their sexual choices we need to have, and can only get when people are giving us a choice in what they do by asking first. [Smile]

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Thank you SOOO much! So I'm not pregnant?

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We can not see inside anyone's uterus to know what's going on in there, but it is always safe to say that if someone hasn't had the kind of sexual contact that can cause pregnancy, there's no way that person can indeed become pregnant.
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seashorex100
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Hi guys,
so I was supposed to get my period today and I didn't get it. I am on vacation and freaking out. I spoke to my mom and she said that airplanes can cause a delay in your period is this true? Reminder, there was no ejaculation and he didn't touch my genital area. What's going on I'm so nervous?

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seashorex100
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I also have little white bumps on my nipples and I'm freaking out I want to cry.

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Periods can be late for all kinds of reasons other than pregnancy, and even people with very regular cycles occasionally have a bit of variation. Check it out: M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period?

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Hi guys just wanted to let you know I got my period three days ago! I just flew on an airplane and I was reading about how different altitudes affect your period. I'm usually on my period for 6 days but it seems like its down to to 4 this month. Is this possible? I don't think it was spotting or anything because it was my normal flow. What are your opinions? I kept reading online sometimes you get your period and girls find out they're pregnant?
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Periods vary. That's just a thing that they do, like pretty much everything else about the human body. So, even if yours normally lasts six days, it will not always, and things like travel and stress can affect your body in ways that also have an effect on your cycle.

It is not possible to have a period and be pregnant: periods are the shedding of the uterine lining, which is needed to sustain pregnancy. Sometimes people have bleeding during pregnancy, sometimes those people mistake that bleeding for a period, which it is not.

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That is not relevant here, because you did not have a pregnancy risk to begin with. Google is great for a lot of things, but not so hot sometimes for health information, so do yourself a big favour and stay away from googling pregnancy information, okay? That's one very easy way to help yourself feel better.

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Hi guys, so I finished my period 3 days ago and now I noticed some pink discharge in my underwear. Last night I threw up but I think I might have a little virus. My flow wasn't as heavy as usual but I'm afraid I could still be pregnant and I feel sick.

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So if you are afraid you are pregnant and want to be assured that you are not with certainty, then what you want to do is to take a pregnancy test.

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Is the pink discharge normal?

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You can read about the different types of discharge here:
Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions

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