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Alice Preston
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Me & my boyfriend have been having unprotected sex for about the past week. We're planning to get on birth control but that hasn't happened yet. It will in about another week. But I'm very afraid that I'm pregnant. I don't know if I should wait until I get my period which should be on the 23 or take a pregnancy test before then.

My parents aren't very good on teens getting pregnant and I believe that if you want an abortion you must have both of your parents agree on it. And if I am pregnant I wouldn't want them to know. I know what I did was stupid and it won't happen again. I'll wait until I get on birth control. I'm just afraid of what will happen. I don't think my parents will understand

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If you've had unprotected sex within the last 120 hours, you have the option of taking emergency contraception, which would reduce the risk of you becoming pregnant. It's more effective the sooner you take it. Is that something you want to do, and if so, do you know how to access it?

For any risks before then, the only things you can do now are to not take any more risks and to wait for your period. For risks within the past week or so, you would need to wait until your period is due before a pregnancy test would be accurate.

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Alice Preston
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It hasn't been that long, the past week I think I have been spotting or it may not be spotting at all. I don't know what it is but there is spots of blood.
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I'm not clear from your answer whether or not emergency contraception is something you're interested in - you may still have time to take it to lower your most recent risk. Other than that, as Redskies said, the only thing you can do is wait for your period, or until it's been long enough to test.

Spotting can happen for many reasons. If it continues, the best thing you can do is check in with a healthcare provider about it.

I also want to check in with you about how confident you feel when it comes to setting a boundary (like no more intercourse until you've got a reliable method of birth control) and sticking to it. You don't want to become pregnant, so what is it that's getting in the way of you keeping that limit with yourself?

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Alice Preston
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I don't know if the time is still there to take the ec

I'm pretty confident with it. I'm just very afraid about getting pregnant. Like even though we did the pull out method, I'm just afraid that it make not be effective.

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EC can be taken up 120 hours after a risk.

So, since it sounds like you do not want to risk being pregnant, you feel comfortable holding the "no sex until birth control" boundary?

And, if you truly, really, cannot risk getting pregnant at all? Then genital to genital intercourse is something that might not be on the table even after you get your birth control. So you two may want to discuss what activities you're comfortable with that don't pose any risk of pregnancy.

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Alice Preston
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I thought it could only be taken after 3 days

Yes I do

I'm willing to risk it but I want to do what I can to make the chances of me getting pregnant slimmer

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EC can be taken up to 120 hours (about 5 days) after a risk. It's most effective when taken within 24 hours, and the longer you wait, the less effective it is, but it does still have a good chance of preventing pregnancy within that 120 hour window.

If you want to reduce your risk of pregnancy as much as possible from now until you get prescribed birth control, condoms are always an option. Is using condoms not a possibility for you?

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Alice Preston
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I could try to get ec

I think I'll just not have intercourse until I get on birth control.

But, let's say I am pregnant, what can I do?

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If it is still less than 5 days since your most recent risk, we would recommend taking EC, as that lowers the chance of you becoming pregnant. Ultimately, it's your choice.

If you want to take EC, do you know how to get it?

We find that it's useful to talk with people about realities and not "what ifs". Someone who is pregnant can choose to remain pregnant and parent, remain pregnant and choose adoption, or terminate the pregnancy. After someone has a positive pregnancy test, we're happy to talk with them about any and all of those options, help them decide which of those options they want and how to access what they need.

You're still in the time when you may be able to prevent pregnancy in the first place by taking EC, so let's focus on that, ok?

Condoms are a method of birth control, and they're usually very accessible. I know we've suggested them to you before, and I notice you haven't really responded. Can I ask why you don't seem very interested in them? Of course, using condoms or not is your choice, I just want to make sure we're not missing anything that would help you.

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Alice Preston
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Ok and yes I know how and where to get EC

I'm not interested in condoms for the most part

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Can I ask why you're mostly not interested in condoms? (We have no wish to push something that someone doesn't want! It's just that we know that some areas give people wrong information about condoms, and I just want to make sure you're starting from the right information.)

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Alice Preston
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The feeling of condoms make me uncomfortable.
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Ok. Again, it is up to you, but we do recommend using condoms both to lower the risk of STI transmission and when someone's said, like you have, that you really don't want to become pregnant.

Sometimes people need to try out different brands to find what feels good to them. Often, too, condoms don't feel good if you don't use any extra lubrication with them. Using a condom increases the amount of friction during intercourse, and without any extra lubrication, many people do find that it's too much friction and uncomfortable, and they don't like the feel of it. Using some lube too often solves that problem like magic [Smile]

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Alice Preston
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I could try that, thank you.
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Alice Preston
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Earlier you said that spotting can be of different reasons, what other reasons can cause spotting?
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Hi Alice. Spotting can sometimes just be part of the menstrual cycle -- if it's being irregular, or at the very beginning of your period. Sometimes, if there wasn't enough lubrication used or sex was a little too rough or someone had a sharp nail or whatnot, there can be slight tears in the vaginal wall which can cause a little bit of bleeding that looks like spotting. Some STIs can cause spotting or blood in discharge. Also, although far less commonly, spotting can be the result of some kind of underlying medical condition. So, if your spotting continues, you can talk to a healthcare provider about it to check in that everything is okay.
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Alice Preston
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That sounds like the tears could be the reason why.

I'm also wondering if it's my period or something because this morning when I went to the restroom there was something like period blood in the toilet bowl. I thought it was my period so I put on a pad but as the day progressed there wasn't anymore blood in the toilet bowl but only on the pad like spotting. This is making me very confused.

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There's really nothing else we can offer here beyond a suggestion that you check in with a healthcare provider if you do not want to wait this out, and that moving forward, if you do not want to take the risks associated with unprotected sex, you stop having sex unprotected.

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