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TheNotMe
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Hello.
I am a 21 year old guy and I am ashamed to say that I have never had sex ed.
A while ago, I was scared because I had dry humping with my girlfriend, with both of us wearing 2 sets of clothes (4 in total); I was wearing underwear AND sports shorts, and she was wearing underwear AND tights, and I ejaculated (but I moved away after a second).

I looked at all the pre-reading that needs to be done here, in the articles and everything, I even asked real doctors, mature mothers and biology B.Sc. students, and they all, and I mean ALL, assured me that the chances of pregnancy are almost, almost zero, as in very, very, very, very un-probable, considering that I also moved away and IF any sperm bursted through, it would have bene only one burst at max.

Then, she had her period, normal period symptoms, on time, same length, and as usual as always.

However, I've been reading online that some women actually do get their regular periods while they are pregnant, and that came to scare me again. I've seen (online) many women testify that they had their periods, but I do not know if I should believe that. I've asked doctors again, and they said that what these women had are only vaginal bleeding and they mistaken it for periods.

I should mention that I told her about this, and she laughed and did not buy it that these women actually had periods.

So, what is the story behind Periods during Pregnancy? Should I be worried? And please note that I -HAVE- done the pre-reading you stated we should read about dry humping and all, but I wanted to ask this specific question as I did not see it before.


Thank you.

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There's a very great deal on the internet to do with sexuality and reproduction that is not credible or reliable. So, you'll want to learn to get really selective about what you read and believe. We have a piece on that: Legit or Unfit? Finding Safe, Sound Sex Educators & Support Online

Someone who is pregnant will not have periods. A period happens specifically because the person did not become pregnant in that menstrual cycle. On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation has a lot more detail on that.

Random bleeding can happen during pregnancy, but it is very unlikely to seem like a person's usual period and to happen when they would expect their period.

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TheNotMe
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I understand.
So, mixing these facts, and the fact that I told her about this "bleeding", and she is very, very certain it is her period, pregnancy is -very- unlikely, true?

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Heather
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People with periods really do know what their periods are like, feel like, and when they're having them. There are exceptions, but the vast majority of the time, we know. Just like say, you know when you're peeing, when you're hungry, or when you're not feeling well, if you follow.

Media exploitation of people's ignorance for profit, or people's half-truths on the internet? Not reliable. Someone telling you they know they're having their period? Reliable.

Especially since for however scared you are about a possible pregnancy, you can always rest assured the actual person who would BE pregnant is WAY more scared (even when a pregnancy is wanted!). If they're relaxed about not being pregnant, it's almost always because they know they're not.

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TheNotMe
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Makes great sense, Heather.
Thank you!

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Heather
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You're welcome. [Smile]

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TheNotMe
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I should also mention, that she told me she wears also pantyliner daily. It is a -very- effective blocker, correct?
This sums up to: my underwear, my sports shorts, her tights, underwear and pantyliner. And to remind, she had her period. No reason to be scared here, correct?

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What about taking a look at this? The answer to your question is right there. [Smile]

Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide

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TheNotMe
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I've read it, and read the other articles you often link to.
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Then, after the information you read what do you think the answer would be about a pregnancy risk when people are still clothed? [Smile]

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TheNotMe
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None. Still wanted to confirm, though.
It is called Phobia. I've talked to you guys, read all your articles, talked to planned parenthood, doctors, mature mothers, biologists, all whom have told me there is no chance. Still, phobia catches on.

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Molias
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When that's the case, then, really all you can do is seek out professional help for dealing with phobias and anxiety. We can provide facts about pregnancy risks and how pregnancy can happens, but what we can't do is help with mental health issues.

So, since you know that's the case with your situation, seeking out that help from a qualified counselor, therapist, or other mental healthcare professional is your next step.

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TheNotMe
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I agree.
Thank you all for the generous help.

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