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Medea_SJ
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Hello! This is like the 5th time I try to write my case. I always came and read other cases and articles until I convince myself that I am not pregnant, but invariably I end up here again. I am really, really scared and I believe this fear can't make me think clearly and is driving me to a nervous crisis. I will totally appreciate your help, please.

28th april I had sex for the first time. My boyfriend and I used a condom. We didn't have any trouble putting it on. Penetration was difficult and even with the help of a water-based lubricant the condom slipped a little out my boyfriend's penis. Still, he had not ejaculate and wasn't inside me at all. We decided to take a break and change the condom. Again, we used lubricant and the sexual intercourse was completed. He did not ejaculate in me or near my vulva. We checked that both condoms were not break at the end and neither of them did. There was no genital contact without the condom. I thought it was safe sex and didn't give it more importance.

One week later (5th may) I started feeling really bad. I had the symptons of a cold/flu (cough, sneezes, temperature and others). But, I also felt extremely dizzy and with a huge need of throwing up. I felt a pain in my lower back pain. This is when my panic appeared. My first thought what that I was pregnant.

The last three days I had been feeling much better. No more flu, but the dyzziness and the sickness persist. They are not as strong as the other days (from 1 to 10 I will put them in a 4) but I can't stop worrying about them. I know that dyzziness (or other symptons, which are not present... only dyzziness and sickness almost everyday, but, as I said, they are not as strong as the other days) not always mean pregnancy, but, as I said, I can't stop worrying. I feel my stomach like a mess, probably because I am really nervous. I had always been a nervous person and I think it is possible I am so anxious that I am creating this dyzziness. But I can't stop worrying about the other possibility: pregnancy. My boyfriend thinks I am just really worried, but I don't know. Based in this, do you think there is pregnancy risk? I had my last period 19th april, it normally (I am not so regular, still) last 30 days, so I expect it for 19th may... [Frown] Sorry if it is a stupid question, but I think I will feel more relaxed with the opinion of somebody who really knows. Thank you a lot.

PS. I am so sorry for the other post! It got posted when I wasn't done, it was just an accident [Frown]

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Hi, Medea! Welcome to Scarleteen! [Smile]

I'm sorry you are feeling so stress about this.

It sounds like you used a condom -- succesfully -- for all direct contact, and also used withdrawal, so the chances of pregnancy are very, very, very low. Also, if and when someone is pregnant, the first symptoms -- even the early ones -- do not appear 1 week after the pregnancy risk. It takes a lot more time than that. Just conception takes a week, and if and when it happens, it takes a couple of months for the body to get symptoms. Thus, the first symptom would be a missing period, which you don't have because you are not even late. [Smile]

Per the feelings you are expressing here, sounds like maybe sex is not something you feel comfortable doing yet so I am wondering if maybe slowing things down is something that would be good for you?

I'm going to leave this link for you, hope it helps. [Smile]

Whoa, There! How to Slow Down When You're Moving Too Fast?

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Medea_SJ
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Hi, Edith!

Thank you a lot for your time, your words really calmed me (you can't even imagine how much!)

I read the article and it made me think. Possibly it is true that slowing things down will be a good idea. I think that what makes me feel so uncomfortable is my fear of getting pregnant. It is like a phobia [Frown]

Again, thanks a lot. My nerves and I thank you, from the bottom of my heart [Smile]

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Hello! And sorry for disturbing again... but today I got some two drops of some light stuff... I know implatation bleeding is really rare, but... do you think this could be? [Frown]
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Hi there, Medea! [Smile]

You are not disturbing at all. As you already said, implantation bleeding is really rare. Saddly, there is no way we can tell you what this "light stuff" could be. For starters it could be the begining of your period. Not every period is going to be the same, they often change. Our bodies are not machines so is not uncommon to get a light start.

There are very effective ways to prevent a pregnancy, out there. Either with hormonal methods, or just barriers, you could have the protection you need to feel better about sex, BUT the most important thing is that YOU feel okay about those methods and about the fact that there is NO method that is going to be 100% effective. If you and your partner don't feel okay with the minimun risk, then my advice would be to stick with the kinds of sex that doesn't pose a risk of pregnancy. Sex is supposed to be fun, and good, not to make you freak out everytime you have it because you are scare. I am not saying you should or shouldn't be scared, btw, I am saying that what you feel, how you feel? It matters! ... and you should honor those feelings. [Smile]

If you want to learn more about birth control, here are some cool places to start:


Birth Control Bingo

All the Barriers! All the Time!

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Thank you! For everything [Smile]
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