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pursu3e
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Hi guys, I'd just like to clarify something I read on here in regards to dry humping.

It has been stated in previous threads and articles that if one or more of the people participating in dry humping are wearing any sort of clothing (underwear included) that covers their genitals completely, there is no risk of pregnancy.

However in this thread http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/2/t/013690/p/1.html Heather mentioned that there is a risk if the female's underwear is thin and covered in semen. Would someone be able to clarify what she meant by this.

Thankyou for all you do, your information is really very helpful and calming [Smile]

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Situations in which there may be a pregnancy risk are when the clothes in question are fabrics that have holes (such as lace or mesh), or something like thong underwear that can easily be pushed aside. In those cases, we would be talking about direct genital-to-genital contact.

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wonderingxo
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Sorry, I just happened to read this post and I was wondering, what if the guy was wearing 2 layers og boxers and shorts meanwhile the girl was wearing thong, does that count that no risk as well? or does this count as genital to genital? Cause this happened to be my situation. Thank you!
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Wondering, the idea is that there is no risk when there is no direct genital to genital contact. So if the guy is wearing two layers of clothing, it doesn't matter what the girl is wearing, as there is already no possibility of direct contact.

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Johanna
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pursu3e
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So in my situation, when I was wearing cotton underwear that covered me completely and she was wearing the same. There is no pregnancy risk from me ejaculating while dry humping?
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Heather
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http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/19/t/000510/p/1.html#000000

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pursu3e
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Sorry, I realise that this is the kind of question you get a lot and that the answer you give never changes. I also acknowledge what you're trying to tell me by posting that link, as in, my activity comes under dry sex as there was at least one layer of clothing between genitals. I guess what I was worried about was me ejaculating and her being wet but I assume you take into account fluids from both participants when assessing these kinds of activities.
Thankyou for your responses, I'll stop posing questions that you have heard so many times [Smile]

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Heather
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It's okay, no worries. [Smile]

And yep, we do take all of that into account. But if you find you are still worried about this, the best thing to do is for you to take those feelings into account when making your sexual choices. Maybe this activity is happening too soon for you and slowing things way down might leave you feeling better.

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pursu3e
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Thankyou Heather.
I think what you said is correct and that maybe getting to this point of sexual activity is something I'm not ready for.
I enjoy it, but it's no fun when I spend the time after, worrying if there is a risk in what we did. It's already been clarified that what I did does not pose a risk. I think I just need to back up, let it sink in and in the meantime, maybe hold off from this kind of activity until I feel more comfortable.

Thanks for your help

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Heather
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Glad to be of help.

And for sure, when we find we do not feel good about sex before, during and after, that is usually a very good clue something is amiss, and we need to figure out, or abide by, what we need to feel better about it.

And everyone has the right to take whatever time they need to do that, at any time, including in ongoing relationships.

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