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fgdgccweugfeiuh
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Tonight my bf came into a condom and after he had finished with it he gave it to me to throw into the bin. I absentmindly threw it into the bin, holding the end where the ejaculate was. I then put on my own underwear. I'm scared in case touching the outside of the condom/ the condom itself could have transferred fresh ejaculate to my hands which I then rubbed my underwear which has direct contact with my genitals... Does this constitute a pregnancy scare? Having read your materials I understand that pregnancy can be caused with direct genital contact with fresh ejaculate... Does this situation count?
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Molias
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Direct genital contact means contact with no intermediary step - so semen going from your boyfriend to a condom to your hand to your underwear to your genitals isn't direct at all. =)
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Is no risk? Not at all? [Smile]
Thank you!

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Another question, I have read that using an oil based lubricant may weaken condoms... I was wondering if moisturising your genitals with an oil based moisturiser would have the same effect? I had a shower, moisturised and later on had sex with my bf... Could the condom have been compromised? [Smile]
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Another question, I have read that using an oil based lubricant may weaken condoms... I was wondering if moisturising your genitals with an oil based moisturiser would have the same effect? I had a shower, moisturised and later on had sex with my bf... Could the condom have been compromised? [Smile]
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The triuble with oil is it can degrade condoms, weakening them so they are more likely to rip or break.

But if your condom did not rip or break, then you can know it obviously was not an issue.

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If a condom is weakened but does not break can sperm get through and cause pregnancy?
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Latex (and non-latex materials used for non-latex condoms) is a material used expressly because it does not allow sperm or pathogens (per infections) through.

So, unless there is an opening in the condom, they still can't get through. There's not middle here, where a condom is "weakened" like you are thinking. Again, if something like an oil makes that material less strong, the issue is that that can result in a break or tear. If there were no breaks or tears, there is no issue.

But you know, given your ongoing concerns here, can I ask why you are still engaging in this kind of sex at all, or doing so only using condoms if you -- as it seems clear -- do not feel very comfortable using condoms alone?

I mean, for sure, I get being afraid of pregnancy, especially in Northern Ireland. But you know how afraid you are, so it seems to me it's time to reconsider your choices here to do what you can to only be making the ones you feel good about and not scared about during or after.

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