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Joe19
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Why cant indirect contact of precum cause pregnancy? Ive read all the articles and stuff. What if the precum contained sperm and it got on my fingers then i touched somthing then fingered her?
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It you have read all the articles, then you know why already. Same goes for the conversations people have already had with you.

If you just can't accept or wrap your brain around all the why's we have given you, then your next step is to see if having your doctor explain it to you does the trick. But, as you know, you need to stop asking the same thing again and again here.

If our answers don't suffice for you, and you can't tell us what, more specifically, is tripping you up, there really is nothing else we can do to satisfy your question. If what we are offering isn't what you want, then continuing to ask us for it is not going to change anything. In that case, it's time to ask someone else.

[ 04-10-2014, 04:32 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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Heather, i would like if you would just explain it to me. Thats all, thanks!
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My boyfriend fingered me and I am concerned he had pre cum on his finger...I read the articles and it said there was no risk of pregnancy...however if I wanted to take a pregnancy test just to make sure, how long would I have to wait to take a test after what my boyfriend did to me?
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We have explained it to you, more than once:
http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/54/t/000372/p/1.html#000000
http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/54/t/000380/p/1.html#000000

If you have specific questions about the information we've given you, in the articles or in our posts, then we can help you with that. Otherwise, as Heather said, we've given you everything we can on the topic and if it isn't helping, you need to seek out the information somewhere else.

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Musicismyescape, could you please start your own thread to make it easier for us to keep track of things? Thanks.

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So why cant precum or even sperm from indirect not cause pregnancy? I thought you said if it comes in contact its a risk?..
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This is the last chance you get with this one, Joe. And I closed your new thread where you are reposting saying no one is answering you. Not only have we been here, doing that, but you have not been doing your part, answering us about what you do not understand about this after we have given you all this information so we can know what to fill you in with.

So, what in all the information we have given you on this so far do you still not understand? Do you not get, for instance, how fragile sperm cells are, so them getting moved around from place to place cannot leave them able to do their job? Do you not get that pregnancy is about much more than just sperm cells having contact with the vulva? Do you not get sperm are not like germs, and contact with them all by itself is not how pregnancy happens?

To help you further, we need to know what is specifically not making sense to you. If you cannot or will not tell us that, we cannot do any more for you than we have done already. And if you will not engage with us when we ask for things like this, it is not okay to just keep posting and reposting the same thing. That will result in you losing your privileges to post here.

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I understand everything and i thank you so much! The only thing im stuck on is sperm in precum, i ejaculated 2 hours prior and then peed after? Would it contain soerm
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Sounds like you are stuck on something that does not matter.

For one, no, there would not likely be sperm cells in your pre0-ejaculate then.

But it really would not matter if there were unless you were also engaging in unprotected DIRECT contact.

See, even when there are trace sperm cells in pre-ejaculate, there are very few, they are generally the weakest cells there were and they STILL need a DIRECT route to the cervix to even have half a chance at being part of a pregnancy. Penis-to-vulva, with nothing in between? That'd direct.

Your penis to hand to vulva? As we have made clear, that is not direct, but indirect, and not a way that sperm cells can stay healthy but that also takes away a bunch of the other things needed for the possibility of pregnancy, like all the semen that comes with sperm cells (and all of what is in that specific fluid that helps and protects sperm cells), like the protection to delicate sperm cells going directly from the penis to the vulva provides.

It sounds to me like you are thinking sperm cells, and even just a few of them, if that, no less, have the capacity to just meet an egg, by themselves, and presto: pregnancy. But as all the information we have given you makes very clear, that is simply not a realistic way of thinking about how pregnancy happens. It does not happen like that.

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I appreciate all the information you have given me! So basically your saying that indirect contact of precum and even sperm,cannot cause pregnancy? Im pretty sure she wasnt ovulating, it was 7 days into her new cycle so her period ended like 2 days before this happened?
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Yep, that's what we're saying [Smile]
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I know this is one of the main concerns for everyone on this site. Is precum... I hate it and thats one of the things were i havd been poorly educated on, thats why i have so much anxiety over it. So the only way pre ejaculate can cause a risk is if it went straight from the penis into the vagina? And even that id a small risk? Am i right??
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To quote Heather's previous answer

"See, even when there are trace sperm cells in pre-ejaculate, there are very few, they are generally the weakest cells there were and they STILL need a DIRECT route to the cervix to even have half a chance at being part of a pregnancy. Penis-to-vulva, with nothing in between? That's direct."

You may also want to give this a read, since it discusses in more detail pre-cum and pregnancy:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/can_preejaculate_cause_pregnancy

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Her period is due on Sunday the 20th. I hope it comes then.. She tells me not to worry because she has her food cravings and thats normal so i hope it comes idk why i even worry..
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At this point, your best bet is to focus on things other than when her period is coming, since doing so only keeps you in the anxiety loop. You might want to use some self-care to help you do that:
Self-Care a La Carte

You may also want to give this a read if, even after talking with us, you're having trouble shaking those worries:
You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are?

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Ok so her period is due today... Shes been having cravings for a few days and shes been very insecure about herself... Last time her period came in the evening so i hope it comes tonight?!
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You know the limit we set here with you, and what we are and are not willing at this point to talk with you about, Joe. I can't say enough how much we really need you to afford us the basic courtesy and respect of minding those limits.

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Well her period didnt come today. Today should have been the start of her period.... We fought all day because she said how stupid i was for worrying and i just cant seem to understand that gettjng pregnant this way isnt possible?! I seriously need help!! Im freaking out?!?
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Her period was due sunday night, it still hasnt came, im so worried and i dont get why it hasnt came because it doesnt pose a risk? She hasnt been stressed about it, its just me
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