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Hi guys,

Recently I told my family that I was sexually abused by my grandmother when I was younger. I've been seeing a therapist and she's helping me start healing as well as helping my family but I have had a lot of trouble trying to feel comfortable with my sexuality again. I used to be very comfortable talking about sex and I was not ashamed about masturbation. But now, I've been feeling guilty, ashamed and nervous.

I think that it's also frustrating because not only was this incest but it was same sex incest. I am reaching that stage where I'm starting to question if I like boys or girls and this has just left me feeling especially confused.

I just want some help on feeling comfortable with my body and sexuality again and not feeling so ashamed.

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Christine: I know we've been talking in the other thread, and I've been doing so from a more professional standpoint.

But since it seems to be taking some time for other survivors to weigh in here, I'd be happy to post some things from a more personal place per my experiences with this and related issues (though I've no idea if they'll be helpful to you), if you'd like.

Heather Corinna, Executive Director & Founder, Scarleteen
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I am now 39 years old and it has been in the last few years that I have been able to feel at ease, comfortable with myself admitting I desire sex and am learning to accept the way my body works instead of rendering myself unable to be aroused.
It has been a slow process but its possible to feel safe again. Allow yourself time to heal. Loving ourselves and honesty. Masturbation was a great way for me to experience myself and it felt good to feel good.

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