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If you found yourself in an abusive relationship right now: what would you do? Where would you go? Who would you tell?

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I hope to God that I never end up in one, cos I'm not sure I'd be able to get out...
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Well, unlikely though this situation might be.

I'd take a firm mental hold of myself, and immediately get myself the hell out of the relationship. If I had any trouble doing this, I'd ask for help from a friend, or for advice on a forum like this one.

Personally, the only kind of abusive relationship I could see myself being in would be one where my partner to some extent ran my life, and the only real barrier to me getting myself out of that, would be realizing it was happening. Which I might not for quite a while given my personality type.

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Just a quickie: I think it's safe to say that most people who wound up/wind up in abusive relationships think it is or would have been unlikely for that to happen to them.

In fact, for many people being abused, one of the challenges to getting out of it usually is the shame involved in being in it, and feeling like they were sure they were smarter than that (though smarts has little to nothing to do with it), or just plain better than that (though again, how "good" someone is isn't a factor, either).

So, I suggest the best way for all of us to think about this is by starting with the knowledge that none of us are immune, and if it's likely we could get into any kind of relationship at all, it's probably just as likely we could get into one that's abusive.

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I'd hope that I'd be lucky enough not to have to make this decision.

But once I realized, I'd go either to my mom or to a forum like this one, or both, and try to understand how to get out without worrying about my partner trying to cause me more harm.

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