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I've kinda had enough, like I don't care what people think about me. Pleasing people comes very low down in my list of worrys, but my alcoholic mother really does bother. I've lived with it for 5 years my dad left and me and my younger sister has spent the last couple of years coping with it. A month or so ago my mum kicked both me and my sister out. I wanna say I can turn my back on her but I can't. I don't mean to bitch she's my mum and I'm loyal to her. I'd defend her in any situation but I'm the one that's starting to sound like I have the problem I lie for her I hide things from people. I am however running out of understanding when I'm called out of work to pick her up of yet another bar or pub or whatever in the early afternoon. I do all this for her but everything I seem to do isn't good enough. EVERYTHING. I wanted to study music but she ripped me down I was accepted in university but I can hardly leave. My job my life style my friends even my son isn't good enough. She shouts and screams at me, she never physically hurt me though but the other day I had to pick her up yet again. I stayed at her house so I could make sure she was ok. It was one maybe two in the morning and she was screaming and wouldn't stop I still now don't know why. I went into her room I tried to calm her down but she punched me so god damn hard she knocked me down. Walking around with bruises and cracked ribs. I don't know what to do any more. I just don't know what to do.

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I found this information about AlAnon in Essex:
http://alanonlondon.netbox.com/Essex%20Meetings.htm.

They can help you cope with having an alcoholic family member and help you learn healthier dynamics for your other relationships.

I don't know how old you are, but if you're a minor, and she's kicked you out, how are you surviving? Can you go to your dad for help?

I'm so sorry that she hit you. That was completely unacceptable, and you would be well within your rights to call the police. It might help her get the help she needs. Covering for her is what they call "enabling," because it enables her to continue her destructive and hurtful behavior. What's worse is that she's doing it at your expense. Nobody wants to be treated like crap, and it sure doesn't make sense to do things that help someone continue to treat you like crap.

You do not deserve that treatment, and I hope you seek help from your local community so that you can begin to make your own life whole and pursue YOUR dreams. You do deserve that! [Smile]

All the best to you.

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Ehh i work and I'm staying with my friend at the minute. I would rather punch myself in the face many times than go back to my dad

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I can certainly understand that sentiment!

Well, I don't know what the laws are in the UK, but usually your access to governmental resources is somewhat limited when you reach the age of majority. So it's good that you work and that you can stay with a friend. What do you think about seeking out some counseling to help you deal with your mother's alcoholism and its negative impact on your life?

[ 06-29-2010, 09:54 AM: Message edited by: mma ]

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I already have counseling I don't particually find it very helpful but I go. It's meant to be doing something

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