Quick version: My friend was raped by her father as a teen in the state of Virginia. She is now 20 and wants to press charges, are there statute of limitations on incest? She is in the Azusa, California area now and wants to seek counseling asap, is there anywhere she could get in to see someone this week?
Longer version: My friend has come out and told for the first time ever that her father continuously sexually abused her, starting as early as 3 with inappropriate bath time touching and escalated gradually to sexual intercourse from age 14-17 (17 is when she ran away.)
This happened in Virginia, my friend is now 20 years old and lives in California. Her father is a retired military man, and now a police officer. She has a younger sister that she fears for and for that reason only is willing to take this to the authorities.
There of course is no physical evidence of this since it was 3 years ago, so it will be her word against his. She is petrified that his 'blue shield' will protect him. He is a respected member of the community and she has been the 'black sheep' of the family, being promiscuous and into drugs from a young age and mentally unstable with uncontrollable anxiety, bi polar and multiple personalities.
Can anyone show me pertinent laws, statute of limitations, links to information of other girls pressing charges against their fathers, or give contact info for rape counseling that she could get into on a sliding scale and quickly?
She has kept this a secret her whole life and wants to talk to someone -soon-. When I called RAINN they said most places in our area have a long waiting list. She has been sharing with her mother, boyfriend and closest friends so she has many people to talk with, but none of us are trained to help her with this.
And finally any advice for me, I'm her best friend and this is just a lot to hear; with her I was completely understanding and compassionate and comforting, but it's so sad to know this happened to her and probably caused most, if not all of her major life problems. I told her I will help her in an way I can; I want to focus on helping her get into counseling because it's just really hard to listen to all this awful stuff but I know she needs to work her way through this. I know I can listen and help sometimes, but it can't be my responsibility to help her though this completely, I'm just not qualified.
Posts: 70 | From: Fullerton, CA, USA | Registered: Jul 2005
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There are not limitations in VA for felonies, which incest is.
If RAINN said there was a long waiting list, that's no reason for her not to call those places, anyway. You really never know, and some places will go ahead and make exceptions.
Is she insured? If so, her insurance may cover some private counseling.
It's great you're both being supportive as a friend and trying to help her find someone qualified to do counseling: seriously, that's perfect.
Is there anything else we can do for YOU in this, to support you?
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