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Lilerse
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I just found out today that my best friend's ex-boyfriend, an emotionally abusive and possessive and overall despicable person, apparently "sold" my friend's body several times for drugs - without her consent. She was raped several times by several different guys through an agreement her then boyfriend made with these rapists to get drugs. God even typing this is completely freaking me out.

So. My question. I believe all of this happened over a year and a half ago, and my friend never reported any of it to the police. Is it too late? Especially since I believe she was on drugs during the rapes so I'm not sure she could identify any of the rapists? Could her horrible ex-boyfriend at least be prosecuted?

She's been in therapy for years so I'm hoping her emotional safety with regards to this is being taken care of. I just don't want these men to rape anyone else.

Thanks.

[ 05-18-2010, 02:51 AM: Message edited by: Lilerse ]

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September
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The statute of limitations in Indiana on this would be between 2 and 5 years, depending on the specifics of the case.

Has your friend talked at all about wanting to report this? I hear you saying that YOU would not feel safe knowing that he's free to do this again, but as much as I can understand that fear, this really is about what your friend wants and what she feels comfortable with. If she wants to go ahead and report the rape, then the best person for her to talk to would be her counselor. However, if that's not something she's interested in doing, then that's fine, too.

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Johanna
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Lilerse
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How about California? That's where she lives and where she was raped. And could you explain statue of limitations?
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The statute of limitations is the amount of time after a crime was committed during which the perpetrator can still be prosecuted.

The law for California is a bit trickier, and the statute of limitations may also depend on your friend's age at the time. But as near as I can make out, if she was over 18 when it happened, it's 3 years. Again, if your friend is interested in pressing charges, the best person to talk to about this is her therapist. They will know more about the legal specifics, or at least be able to point her towards someone who does.

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Johanna
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