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ohemgeeitssarah
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About a year ago, I was in a relationship with a guy who was 21. I was 16 at the time. We had sex, and I consented (well, I couldn't legally give consent, but I said yes). Now that the relationship's been over for a few months, I'm feeling more uncomfortable with my choices, especially since there was a certain amount of pressure from him, and most of the time I had to be convinced to say yes, either because of the area we were in or just not wanting to do it then. So, my question is, was this rape?
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Heather
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At the very least, if you were under the age of consent in Illinois and he was 21, it was statutory rape.

Here are the age of consent laws for Illinois for you: http://www.ageofconsent.com/illinois.htm

Without knowing more about the relationship and the dynamics of any "sex" (I put that in quotes in case we are talking about rape, as rape is not sex for a victim), it's tough to say if we're talking about other kinds of rape or not.

But we're happy to talk with you about that if you like.

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