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unk3363
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These memories are very faint but I can say with a doubt that I was raped, I donít entirely remember the act but much of what know is covered in guilt and confusion. It was not a guy as far as I can tell, but every time I get any where close to a girl I feel like I am shutting them out, when I flirt with a girl I cant go further . what s to do
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atm1
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hi unk,

I'm really sorry that this has happened to you. Have you ever sought out counseling for this? Therapy can be a big help in processing the emotions that lead you to respond that way, and it's often the best thing to do in these situations.

Do you have options for therapy, or would you like help finding resources?

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unk3363
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i never went for any help but i feel weird about therapy, i dont know what i am looking for. i decided to do something but i dont know this feels weird
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Feeling confused and weirded out are very valid, 100% normal feelings.

Seeking counseling often has a huge stigma attached to it, I've noticed. But here's the thing: it is really, really difficult to process abuse on your own, especially when you feel so confused about it in the first place.

Do you have any resources such as a school guidance counselor, trusted older friend or family member, etc, who you can trust to help you sort out your feelings and/or help you seek out counseling?

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atm1
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Hi unk,

I just wanted to check in and see how you're doing. Is there anything we can help you with, including finding counseling?

Do you just want to talk more about how you're feeling?

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unk3363
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I had a girlfriend i talked about for a while nothing really changed but I felt better, not much more was said to my sisters. i really have not tried counseling not even thought about it that much , I feel as though the entire sense of what happened was not what it is but some thing more neutral, but effects me In a way witch is hard to explain
I also donít know what I am looking for, one day I noticed the way I was acting, and remembered protecting a friend when she arrived at I think was the persons house or a situation with her, when she came in a stroller and I quickly rushed her to a corner between the stove and the wall

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