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When I was about 7, my neighbor stuck his hands down my pants. That was all that happened, nothing more, nothing less. I suppose he fingered me (what else would he do) but my memory is blurry. However, this has effected me in my life. Well also, my Dad cheated on my Mom so that may also be why. I have a hard time trusting people, (especially guys), and I'm very prude. It takes a VERY long time for me to open up to people, I'm bad at showing my emotions. I feel like this should not effect me as much as it should. Should I go to counseling?

[ 10-30-2008, 06:59 PM: Message edited by: amy. ]

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early experiences can have a very strong effect on how you view the world, so it is not uncommon for this to have such an impact on you. Often, when things happen early that are had to understand, it becomes ingrained as part of who we are, and it is very hard to change on our own. So I would recommend counseling, they can help to recognize what the problem areas are, and how to overcome and change things.
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amy, what hunnybunny said is accurate: early childhood abuse can often have an impact later on in life. The way that people react to certain situations is going to be different for each person. No reaction is incorrect or wrong (unless someone is resorting to violence against another person). Counseling may be very helpful for you in helping you to open up to people. If you want to give us your general location, we'd be glad to help you find some resources in your area. If you don't feel comfortable doing so in a public forum, you can use the "Contact Us" feature at the bottom of the page to email your location.

Listen, strange women lyin' in ponds distributin' swords is no basis for a system of government. Supreme executive power derives from a mandate from the masses, not from some farcical aquatic ceremony.--Monty Python and the Holy Grail

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