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A little over a year ago, my sister was raped. The worst part about it was that it was by an uncle. My sister went to counciling but eventually stopped, making everyone think she was over it, that she was healed. She seemed happier. Things in her life were going pretty good. She was engaged and was completly in love with her Fiance'.

But about a month ago she cheated on her Fiance' and broke the engaged off. She's now living with the guy she slept with and we are worried about her getting into drugs.

Anyways I was just wondering how family members(sisters, mothers, brothers...) have dealt with a family member being abused. How they've coped.

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Well, you might also want to bear in mind that she may have terminated that relationship for any number of reasons. very often, when someone has been raped, we'll find that people suggest our rape is at the heart of every bad (or even just bad from someone else's view, not our own) choice we make, every trouble we have, every mistake.

So, why are you concerned she'll develop a drug problem? And what it is that makes you feel that her abuse is an issue right now?

Perhaps more importantly, since you're asking for help to deal yourself, what do you feel like you need help dealing with? How has her rape impacted you, and in what ways are you troubled?

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