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c'est la vie
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if you decide to go all the way but then don't want to anymore -for whatever reasons- but gives signals that you want to stop like crying or not relaxing or dry heaving etc but don't say anything and keep going.

i don't think that's rape, but i've heard it is and isn't. anywho, just wanted some nuetral opinions. thanks :]

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Stephanie_1
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If at any time one or both partners decide that they don't want to have sex anymore, it should stop - period. It doesn't matter if you audibly say no or you just don't say yes ... if you're giving some sign (even just laying there unresponsive) then it's a cue to the other party to stop. Crying is definitely another sign ... and anytime you "dry heave" is a very strong physical sign that your body is reacting to an unpleasant stimulus.

What you're describing here most certainly is a form of rape. Rape is defined as a party having sex done to or on them without consent throughout. I've attached an article that I think will help you some. The first part is just the part of the article on consent and the second part the whole article. Hope this helps.

Consent
How guys can prevent rape

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