I was in an abusive relationship for a year which I finally ended about a year and a half ago. Now, when my current boyfriend and I have sex (he is fully aware of what happened) if he starts to make the moves I can't say no, even if I'm not slightly interested. I feel obligated. And the only thing that makes me feel good while having sex is if he is to inflict physical pain, which wasn't the case before my abusive relationship. How can I come to b e able to enjoy sex again without pain and without feeling obligated?
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Get therapy. You have lingering issues to work out. Look for a psychologist in your area, particularly one who specializes in sexual trauma. Or at the very least, adolescent issues. I know school's out, but when you get a chance, pay a visit to the guidance counselor and ask for a referral. Otherwise, many places have public health mental health services. Look inthe phone book, or Google for your local mental health jurisdiction. If you'd disclose a location more specific than "USA," I could point you in a better direction.
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