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mini_minx
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Ok, i guess i should start at the beginning. When i was 16 i was in an abusive relationship. My boyfriend didn't hit me, but he cut my arms. He said at the time he did this so that if i told anyone, he could say i was simply self harming.

I'm a student nurse, and we have to have a medical check etc to make sure we are ok to start the course. I had this and everything was fine, but i went in for a routine blood test the other day and the nurse there commented on my scars. She asked how i got them (suspecting self harm) and i told her the truth. But she then accused me of doing it to myself, and i'm not worried she's going to get me suspended from my course or something.

Is this an unusual form of abuse? Is that why she didn't believe me? I'm so upset that he's managing once again to worm back into my life, and potentially ruin my future for me. I don't know what to do.

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Mini_minx, what I'd suggest you do is draft a letter to the review board (or the medical board the nurse was representing) explaining you are an abuse survivor, and the situation that occurred with the nurse and send it in just to cover your butt and be sure it will NOT harm your chances that are so important to you.

It stinks that you'd have to, and stinks that you were not believed, but there's no sense in letting that keep you from acheiving your goals.

I think we can safely say that that nurse was probably more used to seeing scars on arms be from self harm, but at the same time there is no one "normal" kind of physical abuse: it varies all over the map, and it's really a bummer that she responsed that way, with disbelief to a survivor of abuse (all the more reason to send in that latter: she might be asked to change her behaviour).

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Thank you for your reply. I have another appointment this week for another jab, and I'm hoping that they will not bring it up again. It has been two weeks now since the original appointment and nothing has happened.

But as students we each have a personal tutor who we can speak to if we have any worries/concerns so if something does come of it, i will try going to him first and explaining the situation. But it would never have occurred to me to do that without your suggestion of a letter, so thank you!

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