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DesAngel
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To just come out and say it...
I was raped on New Years Eve last year.
And it's December 3rd today, and though I feel like I've made huge strides in terms of moving on and recovering, it obvioiusly still bothers me on a daily basis.

I feel like I have so much to be greatful for, and I have great understanding friends and the best boyfriend a girl could ask for. However, as the "anniversary" gets closer and closer, I can kind of feel myself getting more and more depressed and feeling more and more like I did in the weeks shortly after being raped. I can still hardly say the sentance "I was raped" while looking someone in the eye.

Ok, well I guess the point to this post was to ask if anyone else is going/has gone through something like this? Has anyone done anything to "reclaim" a day like New Years? If so, what?

I have a lot of other questions too, but I'll save them for another post. :-)

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thathollygirl
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I haven't been through anything nearly like this, so I have no clue what to say to you, but I saw something on PostSecret a few weeks ago that you reminded me of.

"On New Year's Eve, I was raped in this skirt. Tonight I'm reclaiming it."

*hugs*

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Heather
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Hugs, indeed.

You know, in all honesty, I don't know the dates of my sexual assaults. I was so young, and at the time, I had just tried so, so hard to pretend they didn't happen -- as was everyone else -- that I didn't even write about them in my journals.

I did, however, have a serious trauma of a different kind happen days away from my birthday, which was a serious bummer and took a lot of years to reclaim for myself.

I think one thing that helps to do that is to be as aware as you are of what's going on, and do what you can to add new traditions: mix things up a little. Maybe, for instance, you need a day around that time that is You Day, in which you just do exactly all of what is comforting to you. If you did very specific things at that time -- like going to a NYE party -- which you know will propably trigger you, plan something utterly different this year instead, something you can look forward to.

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