I'm not sure if this is the section I should be in but it sounded appropriate. My boyfriend of 2months is beginning to act weird. He's beginning to get really 'protective'. I have a lot of guy friends and he doesn't like me talking to them. And last night he told me he loved me, but a few minutes later started yelling at me because I went to the movies without him. Then he grabbed my arm and told me I didn't love him enough. I'm not sure what to do. I love him dearly but I don't want to end up fearing that he finds out I'm talking to my friends. I'm just kinda worried that he may start to...well abuse me. I could use any help availiable. Please.
Posts: 3 | From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada | Registered: Nov 2001
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It sounds to me like he already is abusing you, emotionally, and it had the potential to escalate to physically.
You may love him, but you have to ask yourself if this is the best relationship for you. If your boyfriend can't even trust you, you have to talk to him about it. Don't let his jealousy go to far, especially when there isn't a reason for it.
This is definitely a problem. You have every right to go out with your friends or alone if you wish. He has no right to dictate the way you run your life, the same way you may not run his. If either of you have a problem, and obviously you do, you need to sit down together and talk it out - yelling and grabbing solve nothing and make for a very bad situation.
It also seems ridiculous to me that he doesn't want to you to talk to your male friends. I too have many male friends, some of whom I'm very affectionate towards, and my partner has never had a problem with that nor discouraged me from spending time with them. He can understand that I am capable of simply being friends with others, as can most people. Something that may help him deal with your friends is introducing him to them. The familiar is a lot less intimidating than the unknown.
If no solution can be reached or abuse of any form occurs (and it sounds like it's on its way if not already knocking on the door) get out of the situation immediately.
Bottom line: do not stay with people who cause you harm.
GET OUT OF THIS SITUATION IMEDIATELY! I ignored those warning signs and I ended up where I couldn't get out.. nothing has ever hurt so much. One day I will post my story.. one day..
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