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This kind of relates to another one of my posts before! The one about me being raped.... Basically, i have jus found out that about a month ago the same guy was bragging to everybody that he had slept with me without a condom! About how i really wanted it and we had unprotected sex! He's told like ALL of my friends and loads of other people that know me and they all believed him! I am so angry!!! Everyone thinks that im a complete slag because i slept with him while he had a girlfriend, and now he's gone and told everyone we had unprotected sex when he clearly forced himself on me! What am i supossed to do now!?!?
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Well, if they're really your friends, they'll believe you when you say that you obviously didn't do it because you wanted to!! Do you know the guy's girlfriend (or ex if that's the case). You should tell her about what happened if you do, and try to see if you do something about it. What about pressing charges against this guy?
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*meg* , first, my heart truly goes out to you. second, I think you should have this mother****er charged with rape if you can third, I think you should taslk to you friends. as Nailo rightly said, if they truly are your friends, they'll beileve you finally; talk to this GF and explain the situation . thats my advice
god be with and bless you
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Charges now... sooner the better, if you dont maybe your friends will realize you were telling the truth once they get raped by the same guy.
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Meg, I think your friends are being unreasonable.
If you can't get through to them that you were not consenting into the unprotected sex he is bragging about, and that you were raped by this guy, then you should seriously reconsider your friendship.
Are you talking to a counselor about any of this yet? I think it would be a really good idea for you. It helps. Trust me.
I have been in a similar situation. It totally sucks, I know. I wish I were brave enough to press charges. I have to see the guy every once in a while (we live on the same street) and when I do I have to stand in the dark, wishing everyone knew what a scumbag he really is, but too afraid to scream it out.
If you decide to press charges, which you should definitely consider it and reconsider it, you will be my hero I wish there were more rape survivors who could step up and take that pressure. I wish that I was one of them. So I say, if you go through with this, Go You!
I wish you the best of luck, hun!
-------------------- And I say thank you for the scars And the guilt and the pain Every tear I've never cried Has sealed your fate. Did you take me for a fool or were you just too blind to see that every effort made has failed and there is no destroying me? Atreyu Posts: 366 | From: West Virginia | Registered: Dec 2005
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I wish there were more rape survivors who could step up and take that pressure. I wish that I was one of them. So I say, if you go through with this, Go You!
