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Anyways, me and my girl had sex for the first time a little while back and i thought that on the first time, girls had a *painful experience* when their hymens r broken...
but my gf didnt get that. I was definitely her first partner, and she hadnt broken it herself or anything like that (i dont know if thats actually possible, but, being male, my experience in this field :)

I was just wundring if this is 'ok'. Im not worried about it - and i've also heard that the hymen can deteriorate naturally without being broken in anyway - and wanted to get some feedback here.

cheers, Smo!

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Some girls find their first time painful while other girls don't. Just like some have their hymen while others don't.

As far as I know (correct me if I'm wrong) but girls are able to break their own hymens. Wheather if it's because they're active (not sexually), tampon use, masturbation or other things. Sometimes a girls can be born without them. So yes I'm pretty sure everything is 'ok'.

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Yup, BuffChick, you're correct. Glad that you and your partner's first time wasn't painful, SmoCho, and keep practicing safer sex!

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Welcome to Scarleteen!

As you've obviously found the boards, how about checking out some of the great articles we have here? They include all sorts of information, including exactly what you're looking for:

Pink Parts

By the time you get done reading it, you may know more about your girlfriends nether regions than she does! (No harm in telling her where you got the info, though...)

And since you two have recently started having intercourse, here are some other articles you may find helpful:

Safe, Sound, and Sexy
Sexual Response and Orgasm
Ready or Not?

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