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There's this girl at school who's openly gay. She's the more masculine type. I never really even thought about her until she IM'ed me online one night (she was just looking at random profiles), we talked for awhile and we had alot in commn and she was really cool.Ever since then I always look for her in the halls, and I think about kissing her all the time. I've kind of thought about if I was bi or gay before but never really thought I was. I'm totally open to the fact that I could be. I've off and on noticed atractive girls before.But I just know I'm attracted to guys too. Do you think it' a phase? Should I experiment with her maybe(just kissing)just to see if I enjoy it? I'm confused. Please help!
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Hi! Okay now, where to start. Because my psychic powers crashed this morning (I called the tech guy and he said he'd have them up again as soon as he could) I can't tell you if you're gay or bi or straight or somewhere inbetween.

I suggest you check out the article The Bees and...the Bees, a great place to learn more about being gay or bi or even straight. This is where labels get confusing, and remember--they're only that; labels.

Typically though, if someone is primarily attracted to the same gender they would be gay. If equally (though not necessarily at the same time) attracted to both sexes they would be considered bisexual. So it boils down to what inside you, whom you are most attracted to. this is all covered in the article though, so head on over.

About the experimenting thing--only do what you're comfortable with and experiment safely.

I am not who I appear to be.

Gaffer--from under the moon backstage

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Don't worry.

Do not, I repeat, do not worry over your sexuality. If you like girls, guess what - you like girls! If you like boys, guess what - you like boys! And if yu like both, guess what - well done. (You've done this before, haven't you?)

If you're attracted to the girl, and she's attracted to you, go for it mate.

Good hunting.


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First, jazzpenguin nailed it. I'd also like caution you to be careful with any experiments you may try; it's not really fair to involve someone in a relationship unless they know that you aren't 100% certain on your feelings. Just let everyone involved know what's going on and fewer feelings will be hurt. Good luck and like jazz said, don't worry.
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