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how do i tell my parents that i'm sexually active now?

i've only done it twice so far, i'm still quite inexperienced, but i am definitely no longer a virgin. im a 19 year old college student and i know i am free to make my own decisions, but im not sure how my parents will react. they might not approve.

i do need to discuss some things with my mom, like birth control pills and going to the gynecologist. she needs to know. im really nervous about telling her and my dad. how do i tell them?

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Some of this depends on the relationship you have with your parents and how you tend to navigate issues when they don't agree with your choices. You may just be able to say something like "you may not approve of this, but it's a choice I made and I want to be responsible about it so I'd like to see a gynecologist to explore birth control options" or something similar.

If you really aren't comfortable talking to your folks about being sexually active, you could still talk about seeing a gynecologist; it's part of general health once you reach your late teens/early twenties, even for people who aren't sexually active. And many birth control methods are prescribed for other reasons, like regulating menstrual cramps. So, if you just want to keep that part of your life private for now, it would be ok to just bring up the topic of seeing a gynecologist (or mention it to your doctor at your next checkup) without specifically mentioning the fact that you're having sex.

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