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watermeloncraze
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Well, in short without going too much into detail I am caught between my current romance and a new one. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half and care and love him but, I think I'm starting to fall for my new guy friend.

My boyfriend doesn't really seem to be paying attention to me. He is constantly playing Xbox even when I come to see him and when we're on the phone. I've told him how much it bothers me but, that never seems to change. We're polar opposites so its hard to find something that we both enjoy. He also makes me feel as though he's recording how much we talk. He says but, we talked for two hours yesterday I don't want to talk as much today. It honestly makes me feel rejected and unwanted.

My new guy friend I only just met however, we have so much more in common we talk so much more. I started to like this guy because of how much we can talk about. But, I don't want to leave my boyfriend but now I'm wondering whether or not I should continue to see him.

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In situations like this, it is generally not such a good idea to look at it as a either-or scenario. I know it's tempting to do that, especially when something that is going badly in an existing relationship is going great with a new person. However, the new person is a great big hypothetical - you have no real data on what a relationship with them would be like and to boot, you can't be sure that you're not projecting your needs and wishes for this existing relationship on the new guy.

So, I think what you want to start with is by figuring out how you feel about your relationship with your current partner. Taking any potential new partners out of the picture, do you feel that this is a relationship worth continuing? Are the problems fixable? Are you ready and willing to tackle these problems, and do you think your partner is?

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