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I connected with this guy and went out on a couple of dates and ended up having a really great time on all of them. Time went by fast and we spent hours, and he wasn't like the typical guy I end up drawing to myself, which was a bonus.

We would text at least every other day, and it seemed like he was genuinely interested. He liked my personality, had fun with me, would want to make out with me until I had to have him stop, or playfully grab my butt, etc. But earlier I was feeling a little insecure after a fight with a friend, and ended up bluntly asking if he was physically attracted to me, to which he replied he didn't think we had a high level of physical attraction.

I'm confused, I get that he likes my personality, and I can understand that he's not visually attracted to me, but then why would he do all that other stuff? He was okay with having sex or doing sexual things, and kissing, being physically close, but still doesn't find me physically attractive. Not that I'm mad at all about that, to each their own, but why go through with and do all the other stuff?

Like, I personally wouldn't kiss someone I wasn't physically attracted to, and he's not an ugly guy or a jerk so it's not like he'd have a hard time finding a girl either.

Go with the flow!

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Unfortuantely, we can't know what this guy was was thinking or what his motivations were. But it sounds like you two have been communciating very openly, and able to talk about things honestly , so why not continue that tradition and ask him the questions you've just asked us? He is the only one who can give you an answer to this.

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