A girl that I have feelings for has expressed romantic interest in me. We both get along with each other very well. I am very open and sex positive. She on the other hand isn't as much. She feels the need to save sex until marriage. For myself personally, I think it's a bit much to ask and value knowing someone that you trust before having sex instead. Will her opinion change over time? Should I move on and find someone else?
-------------------- From, jrd680 Posts: 5 | From: Chicago | Registered: Oct 2013
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I certainly can not tell you if her mind will change over time, it could, but maybe it won't. And if she is going to change her mind, it'd better be because she wanted to and not because she feels any pressure.
Really, IMO, in a situation like this, you just need to think if putting sex off the table will work for you rather than hoping for her to change her mind. I'd better advice for you to think if a relationship with this person -without sex- could be whatever you are looking for.
The thing is, waiting until marriage it's not a wrong choice, it's JUST a choice, exactly like enganging in sex before marriage. Not good, not bad, just choices.
I know probably my answer doesn't help much (probably you will think it sucks!), but I wanted to give you my two cents.
-------------------- "Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it's very important that you do it " (...'cause no one else will) -Gandhi- Posts: 420 | From: Somewhere over the rainbow* | Registered: Jun 2013
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