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Specifically, both I and he are fairly withdrawn and non-social in real life, and I'm slightly concerned that we risk one or both of us becoming even more so because of our online relationship - I don't want to potentially cause him problems, and I know I'm at risk because I was effectively a shut-in throughout my teens and I don't want to let myself do that again. I don't want either of us to subconsciously use it as a reason to miss out on face-to-face interactions. I don't know if this will be a problem, but I thought it best to address it before it became one.

One thing I thought of was that we could promise each other we'd do something social offline on a reasonably regular basis and then tell the other about it. I'm not sure if this would work, as I don't want to come across as nagging him. Anyone have any thoughts?

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I think your idea sounds like a good one! Telling your partner about your day or how you're doing is a natural and fun thing to do - it wouldn't be nagging, in my opinion, to set up something like that. You can always make it sound like a fun activity for you both to "engage" in - instead of making it "sound" like a promise - so as to avoid feeling that you are nagging him.

I think if you keep the lines of communication open and are honest with each other, the problems you mentioned might not happen; or, if they do, they could be resolved efficiently. I know it's tough to be honest sometimes, but it will certainly help in tightening your relationship. Good luck! [Smile]

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