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Roxie102
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My boyfriend never wants for me to buy him anything. Like, for his birthday, he said, "Baby, you don't have to get me anything." But of course I did because he's my boyfriend and I like making him happy. He's always very grateful when I give him presents. He buys me things all the time, so why does he say this? Just wondering. thanks.
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Heather
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Have you asked HIM why he feels that way? Seems to me he's the one who can answer this for you, and probably the only one who can.

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SilverLining
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I used to do the same thing with my girlfriend, but when I said it she used to make me things instead and said "You said not to buy you anything; I didn't [Smile] "

I myself said it because I honestly just don't feel the need for her to give her anything because she already made me happy. Of course I always loved it when she did get me stuff.

I also that she doesn't have to get me anything so she doesn't feel like she NEEDS to get me anything, if she did get me something, I knew it would because she wanted to, not just because she should.

Have you asked him about why he says it?

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Roxie102
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thanks SilverLining, I'm pretty sure it's like you say, that he doesn't want me to feel like he expects something or that I have to get him something to make him happy, but I'll be sure to ask him to make sure.
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Anytime Marie.

You should ask just to make sure [Smile]

Have a good day! [Smile]

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