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livngliferight95
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ive been dating my boyfriend for a while and when we hangout he doesnt start conversations or even kiss me..and i say i love u first all the time i feel like he should be able to say first i just feel like he doesnt care about the realtionship enough to take it seriously..
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Kachina
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Hi livngliferight, have you discussed your feelings about this with him?

[ 08-01-2011, 06:20 PM: Message edited by: KatWA ]

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SilverLining
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Hey livingliferight95

Have you brought up any of this up with him?
Basically your upset that he hasn't ever made the first move with you or that he just doesn't pay attention to you in general right?

Could you clarify more what exactly what's bothering you or what he's doing more specifically to hurt your feelings in this situation?

Honestly I think this is a situation where you just need to get alone with him and tell him what's bothering you. I have personally seen relationships like this end simply because the female partner felt like she was putting all the effort into being romantic in the relationship.

Maybe you could ask him if something is bothering him from making the first move, weather it's kissing or just plain acting like a couple with you.

I have another question; is it just in public or is it the same even when both of you are alone?

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livngliferight95
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we dont hangout in public i mean people know we are together everyone knows it just idk we just dont hangout in public.. his grandmother says she doesnt like the way he treats me
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livngliferight95
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and things are kinda sketchy cuz we are going through a pregnancy scare right now and idk what to do
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Heather
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Sure, but that doesn't mean you can't talk about this. if anything, I'd say that makes it all the more crucial right now.

So, have you talked about any of this with him?

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livngliferight95
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yeah and he doesnt really listen i mean he has his moments where hes great but then he just changes idk.. im just really worried i could be pregnant
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Heather
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So, when you try and have these talks with him, does he seem to care about your feelings? Does he talk with you to try and work out why you're feeling mistreated and how anything he does or doesn't do may be part of that?

If you are concerned you could be pregnant, then you'll want to take a pregnancy test. If it's only been less than five days since a risk, and you do not want to become pregnant, you can radically reduce your risk with emergency contraception.

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livngliferight95
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well we talked and he bought me roses randomly and he is sooo much nicer and more sweet like he a complete different boy
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omi1505
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maybe he does not take your relationship seriously....you should try to speak to him...

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seriously....ask him whether he is still interested in you.......

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