A couple months ago I started dating this girl I met online, and for about a month we have considered ourselves in a relationship ("boyfriend/girlfriend").
Personality-wise I think we are a really good match. We can have good conversations about meaningful issues, we seem to have similar values, and we enjoy time together.
I feel guilty about it but I am not very attracted to her. There is no physical spark or energy at this point. Been trying to sort through whether I am adopting society's views on what is pretty (she is on the heavy side), but to put it simply, I'm just not feelin' it. For example, I don't feel compelled to kiss, etc.
So where do I go from here? It's getting to the point where I'm going to meet her family soon. I don't want to force something that doesn't feel natural, but I also don't want to be hurtful and shallow by ending the relationship for that reason alone. Plus, I might feel like I compromised a value of mine by judging someone based on their looks.
Also, open communication is usually great, but this isn't exactly the type of thing I could bring up with her directly.
Anybody involved in a similar situation? Or any thoughts to share?
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