So, I've given my boyfriend handjobs on about 3 occasions now, and so far he hasn't come? My friends say that guys are supposed to be able to come from handjobs, but they definitely aren't the mose knowledgable source for this stuff. The first time, I thought it was because it wasn't long enough. The second time, I thought it was because he was nervous my mom would come home soon (and she did; we had to scramble to look innocent:-/). But the 3rd time, well, now I just don't know what it is. I think he wants oral, but I am not ready yet. I want to pleasure him though, just not through sex quite yet. Also, he was hard all times, and seemed really turned on, so what gives?
-------------------- ~~Eve~~ Posts: 7 | From: California | Registered: Mar 2011
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There really isn't anything where anyone is "supposed to" reach orgasm.
How people, of any gender, do and don't reach orgasm is both very individual and very situational. In other words, not only does a given person have their own things where they're usually more or less likely to reach orgasm, even that's not a given: sometimes something will get us there, while another time it won't.
So, who knows whether or not he will or won't reach orgasm that way, but what you want to know is if he's enjoying what you're doing: if what you're doing feels good for him. If it does, not only is he more likely to reach orgasm, it won't really matter if he does or doesn't.
So, as you two have been doing this, have you been communicating together about what is feeling good for him and what isn't; about how to do what you are in ways he likes?
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There are several possibilities that could be going on here and none of them are anything to worry about; stressing about getting caught doesn’t help either. Heather said it best when she the key thing here is to communicate with each other as to what feels good him and what just isn’t working. This works for when he is learning about you too. So relax, talk with each other, and enjoy experimenting.
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