So me and my boyfriend have been in a serious relationship for a little over a year now and we are very close and open with each other. We are currently juniors in high school and are starting to look foward to college. my mom brought up the other day that we should probably break up before college so we can have a "real" college experience and meet new people. The idea of this made me a little upset though. We love each other very much and we have been through a lot together and the idea of doing this scares me. Although she has a point to not be "tied down" and date different people, I dont know if I'd like to do this. She said we could always get back together after college if we want but we should at least date other people. I have had other boyfriends but nothing like this. I dont know if i should bring this concern up to by boyfriend or just wait til the time comes. Also, is it stupid to not take my mom's advice about this? She makes it sound like I should listen to her but what if we dont get back together after college? What if he finds someone else? I just dont know how to feel about it. Is it stupid I think we could be together forever even though I'm only a teenager?
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what an odd "logic". I can see why ending a relationship could make things easier for you both, for example: going to different parts of the country and trying a LDR can be a lot of work and if it doesn't work it can be very painful. It might be easier for you both emotionally to end things before then. But "should" end things just to experience a "real" college experience (what's that then?)? that sounds.. pretty daft to me.
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