This is a bit embarrassing, but here goes: My boyfriend and I have been caught by police twice, for making out in my car.
However, both times, the only thing we were doing was making out. No sex, no clothes off, nothing like that.
The first time, we were in the middle of a movie theater parking lot. Granted, we weren't around any other cars, and the sun hadn't set yet so we were pretty conspicuous, but we figured it would be easy for us to see if anyone was coming. However, we still got distracted enough for us not to notice the policeman walking to the car door. He proceeded to make us get out, give my bf a pat down, and interrogate us separately at opposite ends of the car. He asked if I had any illegal substances in the car, to which I said no, and then asked if he could check to make sure (now I realize that he shouldn't have done that without a warrant, but I didn't want to cause trouble, so I let him). Eventually, he let us go with a warning, but I was mortified for a few days afterward.
The second time wasn't so bad; it was in the parking garage of the local mall. We had stayed there twice before without getting caught, but this time, we were barely there five minutes when a mall cop drove up. We noticed in time to make it seem like we were just sitting and talking, but the cop still came up to us and told us to get in the mall or leave.
Anyway, my question is this: Is there anywhere in the city where cops can't kick you out for making out in the car? Or should we just not do anything in the car altogether? We're both in high school, so we can't just go back to his house or something, and he isn't very comfortable with actual PDA, like in a park or something.
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My boyfriend and I have been having this problem lately too! It is pretty embarrassing but mostly just frustrating. I don't really have a good solution but maybe try parking somewhere where there's a lot of parked cars but not a lot of people walking around, so you can just kind of blend in? I don't know. It's really hard. But just know that you're not the only ones with this problem.
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My ex and I got caught just a few weeks ago in the parking lot at one of the middle schools here. It was suspicious looking (it was 12:30 am) but he was really chill about it. He just ran our ID's and told us that the school grounds closed at 12. He then told us to "go be teenagers somewhere else." It was slightly embarassing but all police officers know that teenagers don't have the privacy needed to be intimate if they want to be. Most will just give you a warning, thats all. It can be awkward but as long as you aren't caught having sex you cant get in trouble.
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