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Destinee Carols
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I'm...tired, and I want someone to say this to, I guess, which is why I'm posting it.

I may have acquired a minor rejection complex of sorts. (Firstly, is that a real thing? I tried Googling it with surprisingly few results. Perhaps I'm naming it incorrectly.) My subconscious seems to be convinced sometimes that my boyfriend will leave me for no particular reason and without giving me a reason. Logically I know he won't, and I know being stressed can easily let those sorts of impressions through, and I think I know why I feel the way I do.

My previously best friend, because of a variety off issues, finally stopped talking to me because he felt it was for the better. I have less issues over that than over the fact that he did not tell me why until I asked him; he just stopped talking to me. It was rather jarring considering that we had thought of each other as best friends - it was mutual - and we talked about everything, even a lot of very difficult stuff between us.

I think my mind figures that if someone who knew me that well thinks it was okay to leave me (which was okay, as it probably IS healthier that we talk less) without having the decency to tell me, well, how much easier would it be for a boyfriend/friend I've only known well for less than half a year?

Again, a lot of it is probably cause-reaction but also not necessarily logical when I know my boyfriend won't leave. I've told him about this after my friend suggested I express it, and my boyfriend's reassured me time and again that he loves me and is here for me. I just need to get these feelings off my chest once in a while... [Smile]

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I hear you talking more about abandonment than about rejection: you're expressing fears that people will just up and leave you.

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Destinee Carols
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That's probably a much better word, yeah. [Razz]
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