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I couldn't find this topic anywhere, and I thought it might be an interesting one to bring up. Did you ever have a moment where things just didn't go the way you had intended? Ever made plans the whole day for an awesome night, and then had them fall through? Or got super excited and ready to be with someone and have them not be in the mood, be busy, etc.?

One day I had had my boyfriend on my mind the entire day. I hadn't seen much of him the day before, and I wasn't going to see him until later that night. I fantasized and planned the whole day for our meeting that night, and by the time the evening rolled around, I was itching to get my hands on him. [Wink] I wore pretty plain clothes, but dressed up in my sexiest lingerie underneath. I was feeling so sexy and awesome, and was so excited to see him. And everything seemed fine when he said I could drop by.

But when I got there he was in the grumpiest mood, stressed from the whole day and all of the work he had coming up. We sat around and watched tv instead, and he kinda kept to himself. I tried dropping hints here and there to see if he was at all interested, but it was no use. I asked him if he was in the mood at all, and he said no and that he was sorry.

The night still turned out nice. We laid around and relaxed, and just talked for hours. Don't get me wrong, I was fine with him not wanting to do anything, and I love that I'm with a guy who's sensitive and human (as we all are). But i was still quite a bit frustrated for a little bit, and a little sad that I had planned the whole day for a night that didn't go by those plans.

I guess sometimes we just have to save those plans for another day and make the most of the situations we're given.

So anyone else ever have a moment like that?

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Often. I mean, seriously, I don't think I have enough digits on my body to count the number of times that's happened in my life.

And yep: it's always a total bummer, but I think the more you experience how often it happens, the better we get at dealing with it and not feeling too let down.

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Same. It's happened quite a few times. And sometimes, it's not even our (my boyfriend's and mine) fault. This one time, we'd been planning to go to a restaurant for months, and the day we were going to, a bunch of things happened. We were dressed up and ready, but in the end, we had to go to a place we weren't really fancying that day. It didn't turn out to be bad, it's just that all the excitement went down the drain and it was kind of dull. On the flip side, we did get to go to the restaurant some other day, and it wasn't bad at all. [Smile]

I'm the type of person who gets easily let down, but like Heather said, you learn to deal with it a little more each time it happens.

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Happens quite frequently to me. Not the best experiences, since it tends to throw me into a funk for the rest of the day. [Razz] Working on that.

Happens with both plans with my boyfriend and other plans, but the boyfriend ones usually hit me harder than the others...logically and rationally I know that usually it's not the fault of either of us and that things just don't always work out, but try telling that to the emotional part of my brain. >_>

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