I don't have a lot of experience when it comes to friends' break-ups, so I really need advice on how to react in this situation. One of my closest friends mutually ended a relationship of two years. She seemed calm about it when she mentioned that, and I know she is still friends with her now former boyfriend. I don't know what to say or how to help her. Even though she seems calm enough, I know that the relationship meant a lot to her- they had been sort of pre-engaged and talked a lot about marriage and would calculate when they would be able to support themselves (they already both had jobs, and she was also taking college classes). I don't know to what extent she was counting on it or if her thoughts had changed in the past months (I kinda lost contact during the end of the last semester). I really want to be there for her because I know how painful it can be to deal with break-ups feeling alone and unsupported.
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Ultimately, the best person to ask here is your friend. Everyone processes a break-up differently, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. What your friend needs from you now depends on how she is feeling about the break-up and how she is dealing with it. So, why not just tell her that you want to support her and be there for her, and would just like her to let you know how you can best do that.
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