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shyNnaive
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I'm dating the PERFECT boyfriend. He is 100% understanding of everything I do. However, the other night he asked out of curiousity if I would ever give him a blowjob. Of course if I say no he will be completely understanding and fine with that decision but I would feel kind of like I was letting him down. The problem is, I just don't know if I am ready yet to do that. What should I do?
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Heather
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If you don't know if you're ready, the you know you're not ready. When we're ready, we feel ready.

It sounds to me like as of right now, your answer to that question is "I don't know, I just know I don't feel ready now. I can tell you if and when I do think I'm feeling ready."

And that's an answer anyone who cares about you and who is healthy in your relationship should accept and respect.

It might help you to feel better about this is you recognize that no one -- no one at all -- is perfect. Not him, and not you. If you have it in your head he is, by all means, you're going to be putting a lot of pressure on yourself sometimes that isn't likely to be helpful, and that also isn't warranted since nobody is perfect. Know what I mean?

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JosephineBhaer
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Heather is absolutely right. And if you're very curious and you want to try, you are free to decide if you want to do it again or not. You shouldn't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Never.

Don't worry, everything will be fine.

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