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June Speard
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I's something wrong with me? i Never has a Boyfriend a First Kiss and im still a Virgin. and im 21 -_-
i mean im not a bad person im quiet but with freinds im a bit louder. im not rude, i have morals..
and i am not bad looking either. but no guy has ever asked me out. -_- is there something im doing wrong. and when a guy does start to talk to me my mom starts freaking and makes me get away from them. what do i do? is there something im doing to make them not like me. i mean all my guy freinds think i am great but wouldnt date me. -_- am i gunna be a guys freinds only....

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Britster
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There isn't a particular age for first kisses and sex. Many people in their twenties have not experienced that yet, and that's okay. If you feel yourself to be different because of it, you could feel pressured into situations- such as experiencing a first kiss for the purpose of experiencing it rather than as an expression of emotional/physical connection. And it is not something that gives personal value. Attention from guys, boyfriends, kisses, and sex cannot validate you or give you personal value and you are not worth less because you have yet to experience those things.
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May Day
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Hi June,

First thing, are you comfortable with talking to your mum about why she reacts so negatively when you talk to boys? do you think you'd be able to have a conversation with her about your need for her to trust you? Definitely, parents can be over-protective, and if you two have a good relationship i suggest you try and open up communications this issue, i don't think it's fair for your mum to control who you can or can't talk to.

Secondly, there is NOTHING wrong with with being 21 and not experienced kissing, or dating or sex. nothing at all. There's no check list that you have to mark off by a certain age, it's all about what and when things feel right for you. Try not to let the age thing bother you, I'm 21 too and my friends, who are a range of ages, have a range of experiences.

Thirdly, if you're interested in dating, how about you pick a friend or aquaintance you find fun and interesting and ask them out for coffee? or something, whatever you like. You don't need to wait for a guy to ask you out, in my experience both young men and women get kinda nervous about doing that.

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June Speard
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Yes im very comfortable talking my my mom i talked to her about it tons of times and the same thing comes up. im not ready cuz she says so. but yes your right i'm going to ask a friend out i feel like if i dont do it now im going to be single for eva lol thank you all for your responses ;D

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