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We've been dating for almost 4 months, we see each other pretty much every other day. I'm 20 and he's 27. We will make out, and get really intense, but it never gets past third base! What the hell? It's like he would rather dry hump than have sex! Am I going to have to just come out and tell him I want to have sex? I don't see how much more obvious I can make it, and it's obvious he's into it because he get's "hard" when we are makeing out, but he never try's to have actual sex with me. Also,
he used to live with his ex girlfriend, so i'm pretty sure they had sex and he's NOT a virgin. What is the deal?

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Have you two talked about sex at all? That's really the only way to figure out what each of you want and where to go from here.

This article might help you start the conversation:
Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

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Maybe he is afraid of moving to fast for you? And you know sally WHY don't YOU take the initiative next time [Wink] , it's not against the law you know?
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I think it's good he's not trying to have sex with you. I've never liked when guys move too fast. It shows that he cares about you and isn't just interested in sex. My boyfriend didn't try it until I brought it up. For it to happen, I had to be completely comfortable. Maybe that's what your boyfriend is doing. Talk to him about it.
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