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I'm considering dating a boy in my class. He's really funny and sweet and a perfect gentleman, not to mention the fact that he's clearly interested in me as well. But here's the catch: he's Mormon and I'm Non-religious/Atheist. What I want to know is whether or not this will cause a problem if we were to start dating, or if this would cause him to lose interest all together.
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Is this something the two of you have been able to talk about?
Interfaith relationships sometimes work, and other times don't. (And perhaps obviously, sometimes interfaith relationships don't work for reasons that have nothing to do with anyone's religious beliefs.)
Usually if they work, it's because both people can a) respect the others beliefs and b) whatever those beliefs are and how they are enacted can still fit/work with both people, without either feeling like they're going outside their own beliefs or not getting what they need per relationships and those beliefs.
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Hey! I'm sort of a little down the road from where you are now! Similar faiths, too.
I'm baptized Catholic, but my faith is a little more atheist/agnostic and my boyfriend was formerly LDS(aka Mormon). I also have a friend who is non-religious and his (ex?)girlfriend is LDS.
Just like Heather said, the relationship can easily not work out due to NON-faith related reasons, as per my two friends I meantioned.
And it can work out just fine without many problems.
It all depends on the people that you two are.
If he's very religious and you have no desire to convert, there are bound to be some problems due to the LDS faith's custom on dating/marriage.
However, if you're both able to be tolerant of each other (and that doesn't mean "agree with") things can go swimmingly.
Not gonna lie, Fig and I have had problems with our religious differences before and occasionally we have a spat about it. It happens.
So, sure... if you want to go for it, go for it. But I also suggest talking to HIM about it, and seeing if HE thinks it's a problem.
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