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This is getting out of hand. I've never been this way at all, so I don't know what's up NOW. I get EXTREMELY jealous whenever my boyfriend does just about anything- even hanging out with his guy friends. He doesn't even have any close friends that or girls- or text other girls....or bother to make contact with other girls in general.....Yeah. I feel TERRIBLE. I also found a few copies of Maxim in his drawer the other night, and it's been making me feel worse. As far as I know the girls in there aren't even NAKED and it has a lot of other stuff for guys (sports, etc). And it's like who am I to talk- I mean, hello, I look at porn!! And I get it- looking at that stuff isn't about me or him at all. We have an otherwise great relationship (not to mention we are unbelievably sexually compatible).

I also have some very logical side that is TELLING me my jealousy is completely unjustified- I can hear myself talking and KNOW that I'm overreacting. Problem is, it still makes my stomach tie up in knots and my mind race. He is a great guy- how do I keep this from ruining our relationship?!

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Well, it seems clear you're already mindful you're having these feelings, and also know that they're something to look out for.

How do YOU plan to manage them yourself so that they don't have a negative impact on your relationship?

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It's fun to be a girl with all the hormones making us nuts half the time isn't it? I think all of us go through phases like that, and often with guys/girls we reaallllly like [Smile] . The fact you are aware about it is a good start. You need to basically just learn to allow the logical side of your brain to win over. When the jealousy kicks in think of something sweet your bf did recently that reassures you a bit.
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