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aaa259
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My boyfriend and I are both 19 and in college and have been together about a year and a half. We're both home for the summer and last night we were hanging out at his house. It was late and we thought that everyone had gone to bed, and I started giving him a blow job. Then his mother came downstairs. She walked RIGHT past the room we were in (and probably saw everything, since you can see in from there), went into the kitchen, got a glass of water or something and then just left and never acknowledged that we were there or said anything. I have no idea what to think!! She either didn't see, which seems unlikely, or is going to pretend that it didn't happen...but I feel so weird going over there now. Any thoughts?
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Heather
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Ah, good times. Alas, I'm not sure anyone goes through a lifetime of having a sex life without this happening at least once.

Is it okay for you two to be having any kind of sex in his house? In other words, has he talked to his parents at all about that, and had some discussion about what they're okay with or aren't, working out privacy, etc?

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No, and he and his mom definitely don't have the kind of relationship where they ever would talk about it. Even if she did see something, I wouldn't be surprised if she just pretended it didn't happen, but it's just very...awkward.
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Heather
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It sure is.

In my book, when you share a household where you or others are having sex, someone needs to step up and bring it up to talk some logistics. If his Mom won't, maybe it's time for him to kind of evolve the situation and talk about it.

If he just won't, or it seems impossible to discuss on anyone's part, then y'all just go on pretending nothing happened or is happening. Not ideal, but unless someone will talk about it, there's really no other option.

But if there is that kind of environment, you might just want to reconsider that house as a place where you're sexual, especially if when you are now, it doesn't feel right/comfortable to you.

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