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YourLadyship
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Maybe someone can help me out?

Last night I said the dreaded words to my boyfriend that I love more than anything. "I need some space." Now, it wasn't in the context that I want him away from me for good. I said it because we've literally spend the last 3 weeks together seeing each other EVERY DAY. I told him I didn't want us to get sick of each other and take each other for granted. This all started because I was so tired when I got off work last night, so I was in b*tch-mode. I wanted to go to bed alone and didn't want to entertain anybody. He felt sad, but I told him the reason was that I don't want us to tire of each other and I want our relationship to still have mystery in it. It hurt his feelings. What can I say to help him? What can I do? Was I in the wrong?

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Hi,
I think it's completely reasonable of you to want some time to yourself; it's generally healthier in a relationship to have some time with your partner(s), some time with friends and family, and some time on your own. If you're feeling a bit suffocated by being with him a lot, voicing that to him is the right thing to do - part of being in a healthy relationship is being able to talk about how you're feeling, even when it might not be easy.

It's a shame that he felt hurt, but you haven't done anything wrong; perhaps you could explain to him that it isn't personal, that you just need time to yourself sometimes? (It would probably be healthier for him to have time to himself too.)

Hope this helps.

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YourLadyship
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Thanks for your input! I just told him I didn't want us to start to get comfortable and get sick of each other. I love spending time with him, but I like my alone time too. I really hope he understands. I love him and plan to marry him one day.

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